Something from my past (something the ex was doing) has reared it's head. I know that I need to forget about it, but it's reared it's ugly head and affects me directly. Don't quite know how to handle the old hurt and anger. I thought I already dealt with that -- but it's here! Alive and Well!

Hi Elan,

Whenever something that I thought was put to rest comes back, it is usually for one of these 3 reasons:

1) I had put as much of it to rest as was possible to do at that time, but it wasn't actually completely done and I'm able to (or able to learn how to) do that now.

2) I'm not applying what I learned from that particular thing in my life today and, especially if it's causing me hardship now, it usually means I'm thinking/behaving/responding in the ways I did before I learned differently.

3) If something simple or usual (like a certain kind of weather, going to a certain place, smelling a particular flower, etc) triggered remembering something I would rather not be reminded of, then I might be angry that I have to deal with it at all. If this is the reason, then I just tell myself that was a long time ago, today is (today's date), and I don't want to relive yesterday so I'm going to live today right now this second.

I don't know if any of this will help you, but for me it's a pretty safe bet that it will be because of one of those 3 reasons.

Take care Elan

Hi LovingBoundaries...thanks for your post. An oldie also called me and talked to me about this.

I am doing ok.... I will be ok. This is something that came up beyond my control (physically) and I am working on it. Had my ex not behaved in certain ways during our marriage, I would not have had to deal with this. Just another reason why we are now divorced. Guess God was reminding me that I am in a way better place now than I was during my marriage.

Thanks for your words though. I do appreciate it and the advice received from *N*. Thanks ladies!