Dear MBers on this forum,

We have a member of our little family group who is seriously in need and will never come on here and ask himself, and that's JavasansContour/Tony. He just found out yesterday that the A he thought had ended months ago between his W and a married OM has not ended. They are still actively seeing each other, still in contact, and they even went so far as to go to Easter services together with the children and then go to W's family's house for Easter Dinner.

It is devastating that her parents would condone such a thing and welcome a cheating, married man into their home. He had no clue the A was still ongoing, and to also find out that his children are involved with the OM and spending time with him is killer.

Please unite with me on this forum and pray for Java/Tony. Write out your words of encouragement and support here so he's can read them and not feel so alone. Write him a line of encouragement if you know his email--or send him a card of support. If you don't know, I'll ask if we could put his email on this thread, so he can see that there are LOTS of people out there praying for him and his family, and supporting him.

Please, don't let me down. Let's unite as a group TODAY and support one of our own.


CJ

It never ceases to amaze me that people will turn their heads instead of sit someone down and tell them what they are doing is wrong. I would be heartbroken. Java, whatever decision you make - leave or stay - will be the right one. Do what is best for you and try to be strong.

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Lots of prayers sweetie. I know how devastating this must be, I have been through it. We are all here for you.

God doesnt give us more than He knows we can handle, sometimes it feels as if we will break, but God is in charge and He knows better than us how strong we are. I got (well, am still getting thru it) you will too.

Hugs

I'm so sorry Tony. I know you must feel without hope and devistated.

It is such a lie they are involving so many in. Such a sea of lies and betrayal. And it will end one day with them having to reap what they have sown. In the meantime, please take care of yourself, try to be strong and keep your concentration on your innocent children.

I know this must feel like an unbearable blow, but you can make it thru it. I went thru real bad stuff too, and if a wimp like me can make it thru it, I know you can.

You have my prayers today.

Love,
Jo

Is this the same Java Contour from E-N forum? I've been out of it for a while and came back for a check up on some folks. I just happened upon this thread. He found out (initially) while in the hospital . . . If it is, my prayers, for sure.

If not, my prayers anyways, noone should have to put up with such wickedness. It never ceases to amaze me how cruel some people can be.

DT

God bless you. Praying for your wisdom and self control. Continue to stand for your kids and be there for them. We'll be here for you in the meantime.

The IL's will do that btw...I know it firsthand. They are placed in a wierd situation and when they believe the WS/child of theirs will alienate them too, or that they might not see the kids as much, it will amaze you how the IL's will sometimes compromise and go along with the affair just so they keep their child and grandchildren in their lives. Sure they know it's wrong.

Just stand up and do the right thing. We'll be here.

Wow,

I almost missed this thread. There must be a hundred threads about this.

I put my main response over in E-N.

I did take out my "murderous rage" last night on bowling pins. I drove up to see my best friend a couple of hours north of where I live and went out with him and his youth group.

I broke 100 each game, but played pretty poorly. It was good to know that I was just as bad bowling left handed as I tried that in the second game. Of course yesterday I'd realized that I hadn't bowled since before I married, so I was happy to remember how to pick up the ball.

You can find out more about today's events here:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=8;t=020762

Thanks to all my MB brothers and sisters.

Tony