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Should I tell my daughter?
#76977 02/26/02 09:25 AM
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I discovered my wife of 24years was having an affair with a 21 year old former boyfriend of my daughter for a year almost. She is a 51 year old doctor. The issue remains unresolved however my daughter (22) is still unaware of my difficult situation. Should she know??
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I don't think so...while I do not advocate lying to your children (at any age) I also don't think they have any business knowing all the intimate details of parents' lives. <p>If it comes to the point of separation or divorce, then I would just tell her that you were unhappy together. No need to drag her mother through the mud--even if it's the truth.
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Tough call, and there is not enough info to say for sure, but I think the last post is right for now. Protect your daughter for as long as you can. Your wife has gone out on her own limb and has to take the consequences if she is found out. That will devestate your daughter. Let your W be the one to do the devestation. After the truth comes out, and it probably will since people in A's are incredibly stupid in their tunnel vision, you can tell her you knew but were trying to protect her. BUT, if her former boyfriend tries to put moves on her, you will have to make the decision on how much to say.<p>For now, your daughter, not your own pain and certainly not your W or the kid are your concern. I am so sorry for your pain, you must be devestated yourself.

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