I posted this on Preg/Child and thought I would post it here as well.<p>Here is a bit of the story:
I am in my second marriage...I have two children (10 & 5 year old) from my first husband (who doesn't want to see the kids any more so I am their only parent).<p>My current hubby and his mother are pushing for me to have a baby. I do not want another child and I don't know how to tell them. They are not the ones that have to endure being pregnant for 9 months, have a c-section, stay up till all hours of the night, doctor visits when baby is ill, miss work with out pay, etc. I am only 13+ years away from my two boys moving on with their lives...I just don't want to start over again.<p>Any one been through this and what was your out come???<p>
Gena Bean

I have sort of been where you're at. After the birth of my second child I wasn't sure I wanted anymore children but I was leaning more towards NO. Just before his first birthday I found out I was pregnant again, up to this point I wasn't able to concieve children on my own so this was a big shock to me. I knew I didn't want to have another child but my H let me know very clearly how he felt about abortion, I don't know for certain where I stand on the issue, so I had another child. I will say that there was alot of resentment on my part and the bonding didn't seem to come as naturally as with my other two children. I love my child very much but I think sometimes there will always be this thing that hangs between the two of us. I don't think he knows, we're very affectionate with one another and I don't treat him any differently then the other two and I don't feel I love him less but I still catch myself sometimes thinking about how much easier my life would have been without him. I know it sounds horrible for a mother to say that about her child but I think what I"m trying to say to you is that it wouldn't be fair to you or the child to have one just because someone else wants you too, it does create some anger and resentment, especially in the marriage. I still get upset with my H about it all even though it wasn't his fault either.