Hello,

I just returned from a 6-week trip to Asia to discover my wife of 4.5 years wishes a divorce.

I had a rough time last year, and made many mistakes most notably criticising my wonderful and caring wife in order to meet some of my unmet (but minor) sexual needs versus using a kinder more nurturing approach. But she is non-vocal and I had to learn how to reach her via counseling.

We started therapy at the end of last year and I thought things were going very well. I thought I learned to stop criticising her and she certainly agreed I was making great progress.

But my wife seemed to stay angry and pessimistic.

Anyway, I just don't know what to do. And I do not really understand WHY she is wanting a divorce. Yea, I made some mistakes, but how come no attempt at reconcilation?

I so much love her and wish to be the husband she wants. But she seems determined to get divorced and do so QUICKLY. She seems to even be avoiding speaking to me.

Does anyone have any suggestions?

Thank You <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

<small>[ April 29, 2004, 12:00 AM: Message edited by: ZenBoy ]</small>

Zenboy,
gby,
My husband also told me he wants a divorce.
anyway, Who is first in your life? You have made some silly mistakes and we all do at some time in our life. (not judging)
Matthew 6
33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

Be careful how you do things especially with a woman. You do not want to create doubts in your wife's mind. Our actions sometimes speak louder than words. Your wife is in a very delicated situation. I have been on the side she is in. my husband was unfaithful too. Treat your wife with lots of love and don't do things that remind her of the past. It's hard at times but at the long run you will make her happy. If your relationship with God is great than she will see how God is transforming you by your fruits she will know. Pray for each other. Let God be your guide in everything you do. Show her lots of love through your actions.
I read THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE by Stormie Omarian(not sure on the spelling for the last name) and I learned a lot. How to pray for my husband and how to be a better wife. The author also has THE POWER OF A PRAYING HUSBAND. I have not read yet but want to order it.
stay strong in prayer and the word of God.
praying for you and your wife.

gby,
annie

Zenboy,
gby,
My husband also told me he wants a divorce.
anyway, Who is first in your life? You have made some silly mistakes and we all do at some time in our life. (not judging)
Matthew 6
33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Be careful how you do things especially with a woman. You do not want to create doubts in your wife's mind. Our actions sometimes speak louder than words. Your wife is in a very delicated situation. I have been on the side she is in. my husband was unfaithful too. Treat your wife with lots of love and don't do things that remind her of the past. It's hard at times but at the long run you will make her happy. If your relationship with God is great than she will see how God is transforming you by your fruits she will know. Pray for each other. Let God be your guide in everything you do. Show her lots of love through your actions.
I read THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE by Stormie Omarian(not sure on the spelling for the last name <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ) and I learned a lot. How to pray for my husband and how to be a better wife. The author also has THE POWER OF A PRAYING HUSBAND. I have not read yet but want to order it.
stay strong in prayer and the word of God.
praying for you and your wife.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
gby,
annie <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />