Any of you men feel the need for romance and intimacy outside the bedroom that doesn't HAVE to lead to sex? Or am I weirder(?) than my W tells me I am?

No, you are not wierd. I am the same way - a true romantic and idealist who wants romance all the time. Problem for us is that my wife is not the same, and it has left me deeply lonely. When we read in marriage books about the problems that men and women have I resemble the woman and she resembles the man! We laugh at that, but my laughter is hollow.

I'm the same way, but I don't know how to romance the W, I've tried, but it just doesn't work. I love affection and intimacy outside the bedroom too, but W hasn't in the past (at times). Although I can remember many times when she did show affection and how good it made me feel.
What about PDA (Public Display of Affection) Those of us in the military are taught that it is "NOT ALLOWED" and it should be in private only. Well, my W let this get into our 'civilian' lives as well. No PDA. I don't think that it's all from her being in the service, but alot of it is. I love to hold hands and hug and kiss in public. She doesn't allow it, that's something that she says she's trying to change.....we'll see....if we ever get back together. <p>RJD,
I'm basically the same "I resemble the woman and she resembles the man" That's what's weird to me. <p>I guess that just goes to show that we're not just "typical men"

Matthew, I have a sticker that says "Normal people scare me"! Guess you and me are OK! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

I guess we are....just wish our W's thought that too. Can I borrow that bumper sticker [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] Maybe I could give it to W.

OK guys, I need that sticker too! Thanks for the responses. I was getting worried. Yeah everytime the W and I attend any type of M seminar I tell her they got it backwards. Roles are reversed here too....I'm a crockpot, not a microwave.

Jerry!<p>You KNEW I was gonna be too nosey to skip this post!<p>I tell ya-you guys are doomed, aren't ya? Just cain't win. If you are all smooshy-gooshy and hope to end up in the sack, we tell ya you're a sex maniac and can't even kiss us without an agenda!<p>If you just want to cuddle and snuggle, we ask what the heck is wrong and do you need Viagra.<p>Bless your hearts. We women really are nuts sometimes.

I did what diddallas did and had to be nosey. I think romance and intimacy outside the bedroom are very good. I also think PDA is appropriate as long as it isn't so bad that everyone is staring.

mom, I have to agree with you...I don't want people watching my husband stick his tongue down my throat but even little things like a pat on the butt get my kids gagging and running for cover! <p>It's funny. <p>And I always read the ones marked 'guys only'--those are the most insightful ones!

OK guys and girls, how about some sticker for us romantic snuggly guys? If I knew where to get copies of mine I'd tell you!<p>diddallas, you are right, but I'd never dare say it! Someone said that if a man thinks for one minute that he understands women, then he has the time just about right! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

yes...yes...yes

Sounds cool, I mean hot...what color background!

Hey guys. Could I join your "affectionate husband/cold wife" club. I can't tell you how many times I've thought what you think, rjd. The books and stereotypes are all wrong; I'M THE ONE wanting simple, non-sexual affection; she's the one who's aloof and cool.