Thank you for your responses. More info
My wife is an alcaholic in denial. I am looking for an apartment because I can no longer watch her destroy herself. I have been attending alanon, not regurlarly but have been to quite a few. Every morning she acts as if nothing has happened even though she spends most of her time in bed. She is a pretty lady but the look on her face is so lifeless it's sad. We are seeing a counselor tommorow and I'm sure it will be more of the same - Go to rehab. I've told her that I no longer want to be with her and that I'm looking to move and she doesn't want to accept it. I still love her but cannot change her. My threats are just that. I would like to know if there are any others who have had to deal with this and how they or if they were ever able to help the addicted. I understand that I am part of the problem. Every night she wants me to sleep with her but I cannot if she has been drinking. I don;t think I have successfully slept a whole night with her in over two months. I just think the only way for her to realize the extent is to actually leave. This is hard due to the two children who are afraid to be left alone with her. It's also hard because she doesn't work and I don't think i could afford two households. I am going to another meeting tonight but just find it crazy that I go to counselors and meetings and she won't - meetings that is. If anybody has any words of wisdom I would appreciate
Thanx

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