Hello everyone-
I haven't posted in a while. I am smack in the middle of the spring sports schedule from hell. My oldest at the ripe old age of 11 is currently juggling three activities, the next only has one, and the youngest has two. Of course my toddler is still too young so just wait until a couple of years down the line when I have to add her to this line up! I am counting the days until summer when we can kick back and actually have a dinner time again!
On top of this our school and our family have fallen victim to the Norwalk(?) Virus. It has been miserable.
Anyway, I could go on and on with excuses, but then who can't. I have been lurking and wanting to post and respond to others, but it just hasn't happened. I apologize.
Well, I thought my XH had agreed to accept the terms of our custody mediation. It upped his time to 30% and although it wasn't the 50/50 he had asked for, it doubled his existing time and was more than fair considering his track record. In the past two months since our mediation he has approached me repeatedly about the bias of the mediator and wanting us to come to an agreement of our own. I have stood my ground and told him that it was he who forced the mediation and that I've done my research and it was more than fair. He asked for a few minor concessions and I agreed to them in return for a few of my own.
Well today I asked him where things stood as I hadn't heard anything and he informs me that he has hired an attorney and is taking me to court because I am unreasonable and impossible to negotiate. So much for the give and take of negotiation.
I talked to my attorney and she said not to get too excited yet as I haven't heard anything official and this may just be a scare tactic on his part. I am inclined to think it is as he has pulled this before. He is supposedly getting a new attorney as the one who handled our divorce was "incompetent." Funny, but as we were going through our divorce he couldn't speak highly enough about the guy. My attorney stated that while she is more than prepared to fight this out, I seem to be handling him well for now and she didn't want to take my money if she didn't have to - You don't hear that everyday from most attorneys. I really like and respect her. I always have.
Other than the fact that it will be wasted money I am ready to go to court. My XH has done very little to prove himself a fit father, I have done nothing to prove myself unfit. Our kids are well adjusted and doing well in all areas. I am sick of his bullying me in order to get his way. He couldn't care less about the well being of the kids.
Ironically my oldest came to me today and said she was so glad that she lived with me the majority of the time because my XH is really forcing the OW, his soon to be new bride, on her. She said they talked to her for an hour today about her "hate" of this OW and how she is going to be her stepmother now and how she loves her, etc., etc. I am just so tired of him forcing his agenda on all of us.
On a much lighter note, I spent the weekend on a girls weekend away with some friends. We had an absolute blast. All the others were married women and I am happily attached, but man if we hadn't been it would've been our weekend. It was definately entertaining as we went out on the town. I can honestly say that we met some wonderful people both male and female yet met just as many slime balls. I can really appreciate the comments on dating many of you have been posting as we definately saw it all this weekend.
I guess I am just babbling, but I know there are probably some here who are wondering if I fell of the face of the earth. I wanted to let you know that I hadn't, have been thinking of you, and would appreciate your support.
Take care and God bless!
K
