son went to Dr. talked about dad & OW and D. thought son was only angry about dad not keeping his promises he made to him. found out that son is also mad about the way he treated me during the D and now. Dr. said son is filled with so much angry towards his dad & OW. it may take years to fix what X did to his son. son talked about changing last name, he wants no part of this man who he once loved.

I cant help fix what X did to his son, that will have to be X. with no contact dont see them ever talking or seeing each other again. son wrote dad a letter saying no to this summer. last time son spent time with dad was around early summer 02. after talking with dr. I will let son change his last name.

son is now on medication to help him, used insurance that I bought. X is court ordered but want pay. called child support inforcement, AL. will now mail my child support payment thur Fl. If X gets behind Fl will go after him. escambia Al has no child support inforcement. X badge has helped him in the past. we are in the Al supreme court over dividing military retirement. X is not suppose to M while in court appeals but did. Still hiding that he lives with OW from his son.


If you are thinking about D or D. please dont try to hurt the other parent or make comments about them around your children. Children are smarter than you think, they will listen & remember what you did or said. My son was 11 when dad told him about MOW, I have not said nothing bad about dad, but he has seen dad try to use girlfriends to have me arrested, call our home to make threats.

oneday X will wake up & accept what he did to his family, Im not waiting for that. X still blames me for son not talking to him. I gave up the hope that the fog will lift. Ive gone on with my life. Dr. said son needs one stable parent & I'M it.

I understand your pain, I am in the very early stages of filing for a divorce. My H left for the 6th time for OW on 4/21. Since this date neither one of my boys have spoken to their father, yet he continues to leave them messages.

They are both so devasted by their father's behavior and actions., but yet H blames me for sons not talking to him., he states, I took his son's away from him, now how did I do this?

I can see the long range problems my boys will face trying to deal with what their dad has done.
BOth are teenagers 16,18 and feel their father has not morals nor respect for him, himself, or the family he created.

Both my sons are currently taking meds in order to survive this terrible mess and continue on with their lives., they are the fear of being left, being poor, having no father! OF course father seem to think he will just walk right back into their lives and have them visit him out of state.

Oh yes, he left here and moved directly out of state with OW.... think that doesn't hurt the boys to see/hear their father run, to this date a month almost now he has not admitted to living in SC, tells us he's traveling.

Understand and feel your pain..... Your son will survive with your strong love and bond, which is what I am hoping mine do.

Keep posting, we all care!