Well I am officially seperated ~ well that is my husband is living in his own home, although we call each other throughtout the day, we have seen each other for at least an hour or two every day since he left, we even had dinner at our home last night.

I desperatly miss my husband being in our home but I know that I am not ready to have him home yet and he is not ready to come home.

There are issues that we both need to deal with with and if my husband is going to continue to have the OW in his life in any way I do not want him to come back home ~ I have been told that my stance on that is wrong, that I need to just get over it, let it go, turn it over to God, do not get angry about it, and show unconditional Love an Respect to my husband. I can not seem to do that just yet, I am praying that God will change my heart and show me how to unconditionally love your spouse while they are seeing someone else.

Any advice on how to handle Seperation, sharing the kids, how much or how little time to spend together, and should I ever ask again about the OW and if he is spending time with her?

<small>[ August 05, 2004, 10:40 PM: Message edited by: laura_lee ]</small>

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Thanks for the input ~

Since my husband moved out about a week ago, we have seen each other for a few hours every day and we talk on the phone throughout the day.

We realize that we need to take baby steps and stay in contact with each other all the time. I am wanting to tell my husband to not take all of his things out of our home because I do not want this to seem like it is going to be permenant, then I think about the OW and wonder if he is still seeing her and calling her, I do not want my husband to move back home until he is ready to give up the OW completely and that his heart is with me and that we can work out the boundaries for the future.

Hi Mom,
I know you know the drill, but I swear I would not do anything that cast a negative light on yourself. Abolutley no LB's.. dont ask about OW. Let OW dig her own hole, you be the model of perfection.

And... do stuff!! Didnt you first get his attention after all this by getting out in the world and getting some attention, yourself? Get busy, look like you're having some fun. Project a positive image (even if it's hooey). Self confidence is very alluring. Please take care of yourself - Dru

Drucilla ~ Thanks for the input.

I am doing my best to show my husband that I still Love and Care about him.
I am trying to be upbeat and positive when he calls and comes to the house.

As for getting out and doing things, I am very catious about what I do, I am guarded when it comes to other men. I have no relationships with any other man but I do not want to give the impression that I am looking.

I will continue to do my best to have no LB's

Mom-Of-3