QUESTION: I will try andmake a long story short....... I married my wonderful husband because he was so good to me and i experienced soem bad relationship, we were best friends first but broke up twice (me) because he doesn't talk much ( yeah the communication factor) and i do. We never fight and hardley ever disagree (married 3 years) but that is only because he lets me do whatever without question and i like to be challenged often ( weird i know) i love discussions!! the only thing about our marriage is that i was never really physically/sexual/emotinaly drawn to him in any way beside best frinds and i just thought that with marriage I would get there, i love him dearly but we are missing that IMPORTANT factor (along with conversation). i married him becasue it wa safe and i thougt i wouldn't find anyone who would treat me better...........well now i am having a real hard time because i want more out of our relationship and there is nothing that he can do that seems to make it better, no matter how nice he is i just feel more guilty about wanting to seperate. Does romance ever just develop it it was never really there? thanks!

Weekends can be slow around here. I have few answers to many questions these days.

But I will make a couple of suggestions. One is that you take a look at a book called Just Your Type but Barron and Tieger. It is about Myers-Briggs personality types and how they are tied to communication styles. Very interesting reading. You can get it from a book retailer or, possibly, from your local library.

Also, I am a counseling devotee. It may be expensive but I consider it an investment.