Hi. I've been here for a long time, but i though my case was hopeless so i do not give any advised because I didnt fell that I could aport any good advise to anybody but I do care, please help me with these. Summary: married my highschool sweetheart and only boyfried, move to another state, i work while he did his master, after 2 child find out that my first born was an atipic autistic and my h was having and affair. He said the usual, due to better care for my 1st child I move to my original state and after 3 months he said he was sorry, he was going to find a job and move with us, to give him 6 monts, so idid, 6 m transfer in 2 years but he move, I was more in love and happy than ever, only after 6 weeks i found a email that a woman was coming to visit (diferrent one). so, i told him, that i couldnt continued with did, he have to commit to the marriage or leave.

Well, he said he was living, after 2 weeks i found out i was pregnant with baby #3,(i know dont screem at me). Things got really ugly he did ask me for and abortion, which he knows going against all my believes....etc


Present: We being separate for almost a year, last month he came to my state for our 's baby 1st bithday, i told him that for the sake of our kids, he have to be civil or we cannot celebrate the birthday together.

Well evrything was real great, the next day he invated me to go all together to church and the following monday we took them to holiday on ice (his mother call 14 times while we were in the show).

This weekend he came back to our kids graduation, and evrything is ok, actually we have fun all together, saturday we went to visit his grandmother and today spend all the time at the beach with the kids. BUT our layers make arragement to have a day court on monday since he never is able to attend to them. Last night he said he still my husband and he is not sure he wants the divorce.


*^^$&^%#%& so, i do not know if all these is because he wants to make me soft for the day in court.

How do I know he is sincered and what should I do?

If you read this fard, thanks and please give advised...

PS-Forget my typos Iam really tire.

Can you just get a separation agreement in your state? In California that is possible. It seems to me that you should not believe your WH is changing until you have given it more time.

Follow your gut! If in the slightest way YOU think he is only trying to soften you up for court then don't fall for it.

Be strong and be the person you needed to be before he decided to become kind and gentle again.

They have a way of fooling us, the lies are horrible and they have no sole's., Follow you gut, women typically know when they are being fooled, you remember the old saying, you can fool me once, maybe twice 3 times shame on me. Be very careful.

I would never believe anything my H said to me again., I filed for DV after he left for the 6th time and moved out of state, he has to this day admitted to being out of state, it's like a game we are playing.....

I wish both him and OW much sadness in life and can only hope the hold saying comes true ...
"What goes around comes around" in this case I hope it's true.

Stay strong, stand tall and hold your own....Don't let him bring you down and take advantage, you will never forgive yourself.

Me 44
H 47
D-day 4/21 for the 6the time
2 boys 16,18