After 6 months since finding out about affair and him moving out for the first time on 3/3 and since that point and time he's been in and out of my house 5 times, he finally left on 4/21 and told my son who's 16, "He's done, I am not coming back this time" only he expressed this with differenct foul language. My son said to him,
"Dad this is crazy, it's like we are a motel, you come and go all the time" and that's the response he got, not even a good-bye I love you!
I filed for divorce after finding out he moved out of state with ow who left her family 3/children and husband.
Since this time, he sent e-mails stating "go for divorce-Im done" and another "File Divorce Papers-It's time to move on - out with the old and in with the new"
How can a man married 22 years be so foolish? He is with a women who is only in it for his money, she has told him so many lies and he believes them all..... He believes he's in love! So you walk away from you family.
I have stood by this man's side throughout this entire situation allowing him to come back and forth trying to work out our marriage, I would sit and talk to him about OW and his concerns, he admitted we had a bond which he never realized we had and our connection was strong and above all,
"we never had a bad marriage" then why did he leave and why did this happen to me? I pray each night since I don;t understand WHY!
My boys are devasted, they are sad, the pain is unbearable at times. THey are 16 and 18 and feel such horrible pain. THey are now becoming men and need a father and want a father in their home, they never wanted him to leave.....
REcently H sent e-mail asking why he hadn;t rec'd divorce papers yet? Sounds like he's in a big hurry to get this thing moving?
I am so.....sad, I feel such horrible pain day after day even with all the realization of what he had done, the hotels, lies, gifts, phone calls, townhouse he rented for her/him, he even brought that women into my home and my bed while I was at work..... why can;t I just let go and move on without feeling any pain, shouldn't I just feel anger and be able to say good-bye without all this?
I get so lonely, I try to keep busy! I am home right now, he told me to quit my job to work on marriage then he left, so I am currently looking for new employment.... once I am out of the house I may feel better, but right now it's horrible.
Can anyone out there guide me through this mess?
Need words of wisdom fast!
Me 44
BS 47
d-day 4/21
boys 16 18
married 22 years
