My problem began during the last weekend in January. My w had attended a conference with her boss. Due to no real suspisions, I created the belief in my mind - maybe due to slight depression or temporary low self-esteem - that my w was having an affair with her boss. I confronted her with this. She denied and has convinced me that nothing happened. She has stated that she will not leave. She was moving a little closer to me and I seemed to be rebounding from whatever was causing my problems. Then one day last week i went out drinking with the boys for the first time in a long time. During the late night I was out of line in regards for sexual activity. There has been none since my first accusations. Again she is very distant. When I tell her I love her she says "I know." She does not undress as feely. As a side note, when tis started she was on a real high and I feel that I have knocked her down. What should I do to get her to move back to considering me as trustworthy, dependable, etc? We are both professionals and I have never really had a set back emotionally or psycologically like I had at the onset of this encounter. i am embarrassed and have let her know that. help.

Please explain what you mean by out of line with sexual activity when you went out with the guys. This sounds important to your post but confusing.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by maggierose:
<strong>Please explain what you mean by out of line with sexual activity when you went out with the guys. This sounds important to your post but confusing.</strong><hr></blockquote>

I came home we went to bed and I demanded that she have sex with me. I did not remember doing it. We have not had any sexual relations during this period of time. In my rational mind I knew she was not ready, but intoxicated I thought only of myself.