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I've been on and off of this site for several years, trying to mend my marriage. Nothing has gotten better. Last fall I spoke to a lawyer. Just last month I went to file a restraining order against my husband, but canceled when I couldn't get protection for my kids. The marriage hasn't gotten any better. Now I want out, but I want him to move out of the marital home. How can I do that? He is going to bawl and cry saying he doesn't want a divorce but I'm tired of being his door mat for four years. I'm just plain tired of all of it.
I know he'll talk trash about me to my two children. Which is another reason why I'm still here. Any advice, please.
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Hello:
I’m sorry you are at this place. If you want the divorce then you need to leave. You can’t force your husband out of the marital home . . . you are the one that wants out. You do know where the door is, no?
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What happened a few years ago with the guy you were dating when you told your husband to move out and that you wanted a divorce?
Are you still seeing him (or others)?
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I'm not seeing anyone. I'mn concern for the children. My oldest child has anger issues, because of the marital problems we have had.
I've been keeping a journal of my husband's behavior over the last nine months. He found it the other day and begged for another chance. He said it was a real eye opener. He had no idea he was being so cruel to me and our children.
He allegdedly ran the OW off about a week ago. But I'm skeptical. My counselor said I certainly have grounds for a divorce, because of his behavior toward me and our children.
How many chances does he deserve in a period of 4 years. I don't love him anymore. I hate him for what he has done to our family. But I have trouble handling the guilt of a divorce.
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