I used to post here many moons ago. I was a member since January 1998 until my separation/divorce 2 years ago. My exWH was a serial cheater and it began before our marriage.

I was recently looking back on my old posts and it's amazing to me how far I've come. In the 2 years since leaving my exWH I've gotten my B.S. degree, been promoted in a new job, got my scuba diving certification, traveled (and made it through customs for the first time... alone), made peace with OW and have made so many wonderful friends.

I spent so many years trying to make my marriage work and it was evident from the beginning that it never should have happened. I so desperately wanted it to work and I never opened my eyes to all the red flags.

I love my life now more than at any time in my life (even teen years)! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Good for you. Do you have children? How long did you 'try' to sort things out before you did D? And was it your decision in the end to D? I'm curious cos I'm trying to work on something I'm not sure will work!!

Hi, TT,

We didn't have children which I'm very relieved for. I decided to dv in the end. I couldn't live with the mistrust etc. any longer. We were married just over 2 years and I was trying to work on the marriage the entire time.

Looking back, I would have done things very differently and I would have gone to Plan B much sooner.

Best wishes to you!

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