My WH will be moving out tomorrow. He says he thinks the time apart will do us good. If we were meant to be together then we will get back together. But right now he doesn't see that happening. Sometimes I think I will be o-k, other times, like right now, I don't think I will be able to handle it. I slept for an hour, but in my sleep I dreamed about him leaving and all I could do was scream in agony.

When does it get better?

Best of luck to you and hang in there.

As someone in you H's shoes (I was the WS), I would suggest finding out his most important EN's, and MEET THEM (but don't grovel for the relationship, maintain your self-respect and composure). DO NOT DO LB'S, even in separation. Give him time and space (completely away if that's what he needs to clear his head).

I've avoided giving advice here b/c my situation is still so screwed up, but I have and am walking in your H's shoes. Maybe I can help in that way.

Thanks flygirl, that is what I will try to do. He left a few hours ago. I told him that I understood why he had to leave and I would support him, even if supporting him just meant giving him the space he needed. I also slipped a card into one of his bags telling him I loved him and if/when he wanted to come home he could.

We'll see how it goes. The first few days without him will be the hardest. After 9 years you get use to having someone there every day. The thought of cooking for just myself is way too depressing. I guess it will just be frozen dinners for a while.

kloe - wayward spouses are in the fog. There will be down times, and it is the rejection that hurts. I have been there and am still there at times.

Give them the space, but it is good that he will be out of the house. That will be easier for the two of you. Do you work, if you do, incorporate yourself in working. Getting into group activities. Your life will be different and lonely.

But you can make the most of this by being yourself, working on yourself, and not LBing him. Good luck, and I do wish that your marriage can be saved.

Kloe, I came to this board looking to ask just that question - when will it get better??? One moment, I'm feeling strong & in control <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> ... and the next moment I'm a sobbing puddle on the floor wherever I happened to fall <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> My H will be getting an apartment the first of the month - until then he is staying at his brother's. Although there is no A in my case (I've done ALOT of snooping, as have others, and I am quite confident in this), other than that our situations sound quite similar in that our Hs are saying pretty much the same thing. Just wanted to let you know, although I know you feel very alone right now, you are NOT alone!! I feel your pain & sadness. I am sorry that any of us here are having to go through this. It just isn't fair!

No it's not fair. But I have to take care of myself (did I mention that I am 11 weeks pregnant with WH's child). It's just so sad. This is suppose to be one of the happiest times of our lives and we can't even enjoy it. At least he told me that he missed me in an e-mail yesterday. That's a start. I'm not contacting him right now, in order to give him space. But when he does send me an e-mail, I reply.

kloe honey, have you been able to hook up with the other ladies on the board who are also pregnant and in the same boat as you are? Post to durham on GQII....she is in exactly your same position and maybe you guys can help each other. You don't belong on the divorced board yet chere....there are more people in your sitch over on GQII so I really encourage you to post there. ((((((((((((((kloe))))))))))))))

I'd love to believe that I don't belong here yet. I want to believe that, but I just don't know. I did post over on the other board, not many responses. Thanks for the help.