hello GG,

Hope you can help me with a question or two on this topic...

You've read of my sitch...tonite we had another meeting with MC. More of the same, wife wants out, sees I've controlled anger, but not convinced of changes. Still wants Divorce.

MC brought up possibility of separation vs divorce, as way of sorting out issues and maybe keeping us in the marriage long term. This is interesting to me, since a week or two ago, she expressed no interest in separation, and said that it would only be a ploy to get me out of the house.

Well, you know the rest of the story from my posts. Now wife appears to be willing to give separation a chance...so I'm suspicious...since she didn't want to take the blame for breaking up the family, and has been going into the toilet emotionally since then.

What can you tell me about this "controlled separation" thing you mentioned a couple of posts back? Is it in writing? Is it recognized in NJ?

thanks, GG!!!

bump...

Sorry, Bob, I was away. See other post.

A controlled separation is not a legal separation. It is controlled because you negotiate it and because a counselor is there to guide you and help ensure both parties live up to their end.

It’s simply but there are a lot of details. Get the book by Lee Raffel from your library.

Thanks, GG...I have ordered the book from Amazon...I'll let you know if we decide to go down this route...