<small>[ August 30, 2004, 06:29 PM: Message edited by: laura_lee ]</small>

You've been to my councellor too!!!! lol

Only recognizes 3EN's

Determines that your parents need MC

Very easy to get an appointment with anytime anyday.

How about the marriage counselor and your wife are meeting for quiet dinners in a dimly lit and very expensive restaurant instead of the office without telling you about the change of meeting place.

Yep, our marriage counselor and my Ex wound up dating.

Of course, there was nothing improper here, professionals act like this all the time.

But, what are the indicators that you have MARRIED THE WRONG PERSON TO BEGIN WITH?.....

More fundamental than the indicators that you HAVE MARRIED the wrong person: what are the indicators that you are DATING the wrong person.


BTW, I like those indicators that you should change MCs.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by cinderella:
<strong> More fundamental than the indicators that you HAVE MARRIED the wrong person: what are the indicators that you are DATING the wrong person.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Lets work together on finding the answer to that, we could all become millionaires! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ August 30, 2004, 06:30 PM: Message edited by: laura_lee ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> and did he want the inlaws and outlaws to attend MC with "the couple"? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Don't know! Never got to "The Couple" spent too much time on childhood and parents

<small>[ August 30, 2004, 06:31 PM: Message edited by: laura_lee ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Oh my lands, WIWH,... I thought you were joking... that really happened? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Pretty much. MY MC was more like sitting in on W's IC.

But it didn't matter anyway. MC was just for her to say she tried it but it didn't work. She admitted to me that she only went to be able to build up the courage to say she wanted a D.

True story....

At our first MC session - ever - after listening to each of us for all of 5 minutes explain about H's A and what brought us to be sitting in his office, the best our MC can come up with is...

"...well maybe it IS too late... maybe the horse has already left the barn...." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

And no, we were not counseling with Dr. Phil!!


Shelle

How about when a MC tells you that your serial adulterer WH's past affairs should be totally ignored, forgiven and forgotten, not discussed ever in MC? Also, no childhood issues or WH's problems with anger/violence need to be discussed (because that was in the past - not happening at this very moment... even if he just cussed you out and threatened violence since the last MC session, the wife should 'stop throwing the past' in the WH's face.) ONLY whatever the WH wants to talk about is OK to discuss (BTW, the WH blaming me, bringing up my past mistakes - real or lies WH made up, was curiously NOT taboo)

And my #1 priority as the wife should be to protect my WH's reputation?

And if the WH says he FEELS angry and trapped then it must be the wife's fault - she really must be doing or saying things to make him feel that way. (It can't possibly just be that he was raised by an angry, abusive stepfather that he now claims was the best role-model for a husband/father! and/or that he keeps having affairs and then needs to view his wife as 'mean' so his affairs are justified)?

We only went to that MC 3 times and it was the ONLY MC we ever tried that my WH liked.

To be fair the MC did say some thigns I agreed with, did challenge my WH a little bit, and did end up telling me that he thought I should just divorce me husband (but I didn't agree). But overall, I felt this MC tried a tad too much to make my WH feel 'understood' and 'validated'.

<small>[ August 30, 2004, 06:32 PM: Message edited by: laura_lee ]</small>

OK,

What about when MC goes from 'this is really fixable' in session 5, to 'the marriage is dead' in session 8?

Or what about when MC tells you that 'your marriage sucks, why would you want to stay in something that doesn't make you happy?'

Or what about when MC tells you that 'you need to work on planning your own business; and bring your running shoes next week!'

I now refer to this guy as "Dr. Kevorkian"...