Brief history, my wife and I have been together 13+ years, we have twin daughters 11 yrs old. Our lives have been stressful as we had kids too young, me 22, she 24. We've had some problems over the years, but nothing major. SHe has also had health problems 10 of those years.
Wife started going to bi-weekly music event and I supported her, wanting her to go have fun. We'll she found someone there that she was attracted to and I had reservations from the get-go. She kept saying they were friends, not to worry balh,blah,balh. Anyhow, after a recent blow up she tells me she has strong feelings for him, and I've seen cell records of there contact. I feel she's become addicted to him. She now has said she wants to separate and the time might do us good. She has good basic morals and I really don't think that they've slept together, yet, but the intamacy and emotional toll has been great. She says that he's not the only cause of her wanting out but that it is a factor.
I love my wife and really want this to work out. But I am at a loss as what to do. I feel if she moves out and starts seeing him, I don't want any part of that. I'm trying not to pressure her, she says she still loves me, but is not passionately in love anymore. I really feel I've been more than cool about this but my pride has been smashed.
I am thinking of seeking legal counsel. Do I tell her if she sees or talks to him again we're done? She is not vengeful or spiteful and I don't want to push it that way, but how long can I stay open to her?? It has been a very painful few months, I don't know how longI can continue. Do I demand she stop? It's all up to her and I feel powerless. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
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