I have been lurking around the boards for the last few weeks just to see what is going on. I noticed a few old-timers made some posts so I thought I would give y'all a quick update about my goings-on.

I am the MB-er formally known as LoveHerStill but changed my name a while back since the old one doesnt apply anymore. I took Rainy Day Person as my screen name from that great Gordon Lightfoot song after meeting my Rainy Day Person who has shown me that relationships can be and are a special place and there is life and love after the devastation that an A brings to a person.

Dont want to relive ancient history except to say that DDay was almost 3 years ago (Sept 2001). A lot has happened since then, a lot of good things and a lot of bad things, but I have come out of this a better person (completely rebuilt and overhauled with a lot of good miles left <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ) I havent filed for D yet because STBX keeps asking me not to so she can continue to use my health insurance. And I have to admit I have been scared of what will happen when I do file, I know her reaction will not be good and I am hesitant to put my kids through another one of her tirades.

But it has gotten to the point where I have finally had enough and have gotten serious about filing for the D. Taking the emotional part out of this and looking at it strictly from a business perspective has really helped- the liability I am carrying is enormous. I did a little research concerning state laws about spousal and child support and noticed that I was paying a lot more than what the state says I should given the fact the STBX is capable of working, even though she doesnt. I finally got with an atty and she said my separation agreement was written for STBX's benefit only and needs to be modified on my behalf. Hopefully all the paperwork will be completed this week and I can move forward with it.

So that is my story up until now. For all you old-timers that I remember from way back, its good to see you are still around.

As they say- to be continued.....