i need a man point of view to help me understand what had happen to me. here my story, i was seeing this guy who had only been divorced for 3 months and we started dating and enjoyed each others company. but soon it got to the point where i was making a effort to proof to him that there are good women out there who knew how to treat a man right. but after nine months he decides that there was something missing and he needs space and time to figure it out. but he seem that he could put a handle on what he thought was missing and on night he sat me down and told me that he didn't intend to think of seeing other but it happen and if he didn't pursue it he would wonder if he passed up a chance to be happy, but we continued to see each and talked , but then one night we got together and it felt like we never broke up., then a few weeks later he told me that he never stopped seeing her and that it felt right , but he really never took the time and effort to see if we were met for each other and he said that was he fault, he said, he had feelings for me and cared deeply for me, but didn't know if he wanted to put a ring on my finger. so i left hurt and angry and called him up and told him that i couldn't just be friends with him knowing how i felt in my heart about him. and told him i couldn't be there for him anymore. then a few months later i find out that he got this girl pregant and just a week ago married her. i'm still hurt my this , because i find out that she knew how he felt tolds me and lie to him about being on the pill and got pregant to get him premantly. because he is a type whoo will do the right thing for the child. but i know that he lost his job and took a lesser job because of it. i told him that in his search for perfection it caused him to miss out on all the rest and miss out on someone who is real. i know he tring to do the right thing. but him telling everyone that he mess up. tells me that he really didn't want to get this girl pregant. nor have somone decide his life. but i'm i doing the right thing by not trying to be in his life and just let him figure out over time that he did miss out on a real chance at happeness. or well he never learn by his mistake. [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]

Ouch. That hurt just reading it. I can imagine that you feel very badly. I have heard countles versions of the same story though over the years and can only give you the same advice that I have come to know is the only answer. You were created. Not so much by a couple of parents but by God. He loves you and wants only good for you in your life. He did not send you here to be miserable. So he inspired the writing of the Bible. If you live by it you will avoid such problems in the future. After years of reading on my favorite subject I have found passages that advise against so much as kissing with your mouth open! While I can remember my courting years and how far fetched that advice would have sounded at the time I can now see the wisdom of it. When you recover sufficiantly to look again for the companionship that you so obviously need, stop fishing on the bottom(bars ect) and join a church that has members your age( there are some congregations that are mostly old) and hang out there. You would be amazed at the marriages that have sprung out of the little baptist church I attend. While Christians are ot perfect, we tend to be safer than the average street crowd.
May God Bless and keep you always.