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After 12 yrs of marriage my wife and I separated in March. About two years ago, I caught her having a ongoing affair. She said she quickly ended it but continued to act hostile towards me. I spent a year and a half getting over the affair but never got past the negative attitude and hostile enviroment so I decided to leave. Since I left we have gotten along great and both of us agreed to keep the friendship longterm for the sake of our two children. (3&6) I have recently received a picture from a friend of mine that shows my ex wife to be, all snuggled up to her new/old boyfriend. Oh yes, the same guy she cheated on me with. The picture was taken two weeks ago. She did not deny when I put her on the spot whether she is sleeping with him but obviously she is..
I am not a happy camper...I have ended my personal relationship with her but will continue to have contact for the sake of the kids..we have agreed on joint custody.. I'm seriously considering abandoning mediation and seek a court date to have alimony thrown out. I would also find it interesting to supoena the guy she had the affair with a put him on the stand...
As you can tell I'm abit angered by her actions. Our friends find it distasteful and I feel it is a slap in my face...
Any ideas on how I should handle this?
Thank you in advance..
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her:36
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Joined: Mar 2003
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James, I'm not much in the department of advisor these days... But, I've learned from my own mistakes to defidently not react while hurt or angered... Try to let your feelings calm back down so you can make rational decisions. I know I've stopped myself quite a few times this time... Its my 3rd time seperated and 2nd because she was unfaitful. I wish you and your children the best.
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I agree. Don't do anything while angry. Let it subside. Think clearly. Be rational. Lay a plan. Then execute it!!
I would definitely set some very specific boundaries for this deal. Get a good attorney in on this if you haven't already.
Above all, PRAY! God will help you achieve your end goals. He's able. He's been divorced and cheated on too!!!
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