Still no interest in the marriage counseling. I have been told by her lawyer not to contact her or the kids. I have no rights as I am only a step-father. Today is the 4th of July and I spent the day alone thinking of my family and what I had. I missed having the BBQ and watching the fireworks and parade with my family. I appreciate everything now that things don't look hopeful. I will keep praying and attending counseling.

I understand how it feels, as I too spent the 4th alone. It's been a year since my abusive husband gave up on himself changing through counseling and filed to set me free of his ways.

Divorce is not a solution to our personal or marital issues, of course! I pray that your wife will soon come to realize that. I pray that she will keep seeking God for the real solution!!...
because there is one!!!...

Circumstances can appear hopeless, but God still has a plan!!.. He has taken you a long way toward His Will, and He will not abandon you! He is working in your wife's heart too, if she is a believer, and we will keep praying that she will heal and that this marriage can be miraculously restored. I pray for these children too, that what is best for them will happen!! Do not give up hope!...Trust God for what is yet unseen...His plan is GOOD!!!!...and you are on your way walking into it!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I am presently going through the same thing. I am currently 4 months pregnant and realized that my husband had been having an affair with a member of our church. When I found out I confronted him and asked him and he said that she was giving him advice. He moved out of our new home 2 months ago. The best part is that the Lord blessed us with this pregnancy after we had been trying for so long. We have only been married for two years and he has already signed the divorce papers. Luckily, I am on his insurance and the divorce will not be final until after the baby is born. I still pray for restoration of my marriage. I took vows for better , for worse, etc. I have thought about moving away and going on with my life, but would I be happy? He acts like a real jerk. He has refused counseling, he does not attend any dr. appointments nor does he call to see if I need anything. I just pray for him. His claim is that we disagreed and he is correct. A married man should be at home with his wife, not at the bar with his fraternity brothers or conversing with other women. Of course I was upset. He and I dated for 7 yrs. prior to our marriage and he was my best friend. It's like Satan has a choke hold on him. I don't know what else to do. Do I fight or just let him go considering how awful he treats me?

Kyshia, I'm sorry you are facing this, but again, God is still bigger than this problem and will help you through. Pour out your heart in prayer, repenting & asking for a clean heart before HIM. Ask for His Will to be done in your marriage and that He will show you the way through this trial. Pray that your husband would be delivered of this deception that has captured him, get the support you need to keep praying. I think there is still a group of women here too, with Stormie Omartian's book, Power of a Praying Wife. Do not give up!

Tell your husband of your stand...that you love him, that this covenant is of the Lord, and divorce is not the answer to any problems that have come between you. You desire to get the counseling together that will help to resolve this. If your husband will not hear you, then according to Matt. 18:15-19, go to your pastor and see if he would speak to your husband.