Hi there - Back from the 2 week vacation. Didn't do so well. With HIS family, tried NOT to say anything because the counselor said HE should tell his people. So it was very uncomfortable to say the least. They have to suspect something when I called home and NEVER spoke to him. But they never point blank asked if anything was happening with us so I said nothing. He went to the counselor on Thursday and said he is not ready to come back because he feels I will drill him about the O/W. He said to the counselor he has not seen her for 2 weeks, but that is a cop out, she is not there, she is probably at her kids house like last year at this time. So he wasn't exactly telling the truth to the counselor again. This is my feeling. He does not want a divorce at this time he said, he does love me, he feels I will never forget about this and that I will never get over it. Perhaps he is right there. Time will tell on that one. The longer I see him seeing her, the more distant I am becoming. But the counselor said he asked my husband if I give him space at this time and not see him or bother him, could he see a future together again as a couple, and he said yes. So the counselor said I have 3 things I can do, stay away and not bother him, let him do whatever, get a divorce if I feel I can't take it anymore or longer, or try and just act like we are divorced and go on my merry way of living. He feels he WILL come back to me. But right now I am unsure if I can ever trust him again.. And he said if I tell him to get out of my mothers home, he will go and live with her. I really wanted to tell him to get out, especially that he is still seeing her. Maybe sending him IN with her again, will wise him up. I'm not sure what to do on that one yet. I still don't trust him, especially knowing she is away and he told the counselor he hadn't seen her for two weeks. He didn't say she was away......So I am back where I started, a waiting game, but he did say he doesn't want to see me in a loony toon hospital by making myself sick with following him and checking up on him. But I will have to see if he is still seeing her when she returns.....If he is, then I am going to go on my merry way and act like he's dead. That is my plan anyway. Wish me luck.......Thanks for being there when I need someone.........
