I don't know how to start plan A because I live 2,000 miles away. I don't even know if they live together or not. I have no way to know if they still in contact or not. I can not beginning to deposit in the needs account because my only contact with him is by phone.

I'm hopeless, and the only thing i want in live is my family together. My Daugther love his father even do she only live with him for her first 6 months of her live because I teach her to loved and respect him for her own good and self steam, but now I think that maybe I made a mistake because she is going to be crush when she found out that his dad it is not want i teach her. What is going to happen when she learn that his father go away to be with an ow, that he did not care that only was going to see her for 10 days evry 3 or 4 months.

I doble guess evrything i do or not do. I used to be a very strong and independent person and now I dont even now whow to get the most simple decision in live without doble guessing.

Evrybody tells me that I'm to good for my husband that he do not deserve me, that one day he is going to find out how foolish he was, that i should go on with my live, that I will find someone who nows how to love me, but guess what?

I just want him, to be my parner in live and father of our kids. '

They said that I do not respect myself or my kids if I continued to try to get him back.

I'm getting crazy

I am sending you big hugs. I am deeply sorry to hear you are hurting so much and this terrible situation has happened to you.

Your spouse has deep problems and this affair speaks volumes about him not you. He broke the marriage you did not. He has problems that only he and God can fix.

The saddest part is you and your daughter are having to pay for the negative conseqences of his poor judgement and choices.

No-one made him have affair- He choose an easy way out to run from himself and God, you and your daughter.

Healthy men, men of character, do not behave this way. What he is doing is wrong and dishonorable.

Take this time to read all the important information--- be good to yourself. As an adultery works on making us look bad, awful.

If there were concerns in the marriage relationship. He has a mind, mouth, and should of talked to you in a loving kind manner to resolve misunderstandings.

Normal people communicate, talk things through.
Healthy people attack problems not the people they care about. You are not crazy!

Adultery, is crazy it destroys everyone.

Take time to be kind to your self. Truth is maybe he really isn't worth you and your daughter. He wants to play games. We don't play games to hurt and harm others.

Are there drugs or alchol involved with your partner? The reason I ask is usually where heavy drinking, drugs, wrong crowds, there are usually troubled women that go with it.

If he is on alchol and drugs. Remember the chemicals are controlling him and he is not controlling them. I don't know.

This is a time for you and your daughter to receive so much love from family and friends. If is acting crazy those hormones will wear off with the OW... he will have more problems on his hands then.

If he doesn't want to call, that is his problem, every minute, moment he ignores his child, things will get worse for him.

If he choose to be a dead beat father, you must ask your self do you want a dead beat father for your daughter and dead beat husband. In that case in IHMO- I believe you and your daughter deserve so much better. A heart beat husband and heart beat father who will love, protect, provide, cherish the both of you.

You must ask your self, what do you really want?
Is he meeting your needs, your daughter needs?

Love and marriage is a two way street. No a one way street for someone who is blind and extremely selfish.

Relax, seek God, he loves you and your daughter. Be good to yourselves, read, read, and write out all your hurt here. We understand and you are not alone.

Hugs...