I have decided that I am leaving the forum. I don't belong somewhere like this. I have no marriage. I have nothing to build.<BR>Besides, I don't have any advise to give anyone. I am so depressed.<BR>Thank you all for your help. I just can't seem to learn from any of it. My h continues to treat me like s*** and I keep letting him.<P>Cheryl

I'm sorry you're so discouraged.<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ceecee}}}}}}}}}}}

ahem, "Just where do you think you are going young lady ?? " (said in my best MOTHER tone of voice) Cheryl. I know you are hurting, but you have a lot to give, and you don't need to be without support right now. What you are going through would depress anyone, but please stay here, let us try to help you through this, if he doesn't wake up it's not because you haven't tried. And one day you will find someone else who will give you and your child the love you deserve, but until then stay here, keep reading and learning, look I am the queen of depression, and lately I haven't been much help to anyone, but sometimes just telling someone you understand and will be thinking of and /or praying from them is a lot more help than you realise, besides, you can help so many who are where you are, ok lecture over. for now.<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>

Ceecee - please stay. I just joined the forum this morning and you were amongst the first to respond to my plea for help. I've been lurking since mid July and found you to be one of the most giving and helpful people here. Although your situation is like mine...seemingly hopeless, please know that we all share your pain and wnat to help you through it. Hang in there and please stay!

Yes - stay - we all value the support we get here and you still need the support even if you have lost hope. Heck I am thinking of filing for divorce (even tho it is not what I want). <P>We need you here and you need this too!<P> <BR><P>------------------<BR>H

I'll add my plea for you to stay. I have really appreciated your support, and I know you will continue to find support here as well.

CeeCee:<BR>Don't leaveeeeeeeeeeeee..... We want you to stay and be part of "our family". It's o.k., you don't have to give anyone advice. Your dealing with alot right now. Your really down right now and wish I knew you personally so I could make you laugh. I'm told I am good at that when someone is down. Go to the rental place and get a rental movie - a comedy, preferably, "How about Mary". Funny as hell if you haven't seen it, you've got to. Then come home and take a nice hot bath with Mr. Bubbles and a few lighted candles, get out and pamper yourself with some body lotion. Next, go get a nice big bowl of ice cream. Splurge. Enjoy it. Taste it. I hope youlike ice cream. Pop in that movie and laugh. Laughing is the best medicine right now. It will conquer depression. <BR>You said you don't have a marriage. Yeah, but you do have you and you, right now and always, are the most important thing. Think about you. You don't have to let your H treat you like s@#$. Your allowing him to . You are giving him permission to treat you that way. Don't! Stop it! Come on CeeCee, get on the post and write. Tell me what you are feeling. Let me help the best way I can...I can't and neither can anyone else if your leaving. Your running. Is that your solution???? Is that going to help you????? It seems to me that there are several people on this post that are asking you to stay and they replied. It seems to me that there are people who care enough to write and reply and tell you not to go. Have the courage to make a change that will try to improve yourself within. What are you feeling right now??? Do you want to talk???? What has got you so depressed??? Another fight??? I'm here if you want to talk. Your friend, Katya

ceecee -- Cheryl I too wish that you would stay. You HAVE been a help to many people here. Let us try and help you now. PLEASE, don't leave.<P>God Bless

Cheryl,<BR>I know how you are feeling, but please don't leave. This is a great support system, and there are several of us in the same position... and we need each other. <BR>Butterfly<P>------------------<BR>My favorite quote....<BR>"Hello, this is God. I will be handeling your problems today. I will not need your help, so sit back and have a good day."<BR>

You're RIGHT. I DO need you guys. I will stay. Thank you all for giving me that extra support when I needed it most.<BR>You have all been so great to me. Even if I don't have any advise to give right now, I sure NEED all the advise I can get.<BR>Thanks again.<BR>God Bless you,<BR>Cheryl

Cheryl,<P>I too am another who was blessed with having you be the first reply to my initial post. Your advice in the beginning was invaluable, helping me to overcome my lack of trust and many other negative feelings. <P>Now maybe you need to allow us to pick you up when you are down. If H is truly gone, where else can you find the emotional support needed to help you through this. Allow us to give you the love and understanding that you deserve!!!!!!!!<P>

I am so sorry you are leaving and you feel that way. I wish there was some magic words that could change things for you. Please take care of yourself. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.<P>------------------<BR>A.K.A.<BR>PondVJ

Whew, I am so glad I didn't have to give the number 2 Mother voice lecture !<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>