Well here's what's new gang and it's not good.
Between her mother,sister and everyone else the love of my life has left me.She has been under treminous stress and press from them and the pastor about getting back to her husband that she told me if they don't let up she'll take the kids and book.
Well yesterday I sent her some flowers and a note telling her don't leave, don't let them use religion and guilt trips in an efford to get her to go back.I also told her I believe in her and that I love her. I told the people at the flower shop to deliver them at 5pm. Guess what? they sent them to day at three and her sister got them. she opened the letter and read it. Then she showed her mother( I didn't know she was there too) who in turned took it to the ex husband. You can guess fron there where it went. Both the mother and sister phoned the GF at work 5 times and the ex once tell her she is an adulterst and a sinner and very thing but a white man.
The GF phoned me at work and told me she is leaving everyone like she said and called to say goodbye. I'm heartbroke right now and talk about trying to get through work with that.
She told me not to look for her and if I did find her she would call the cops on me. I know for a fact she is gone now and probally never see her again.She said she would call me to tell me she is O.K. and to check on me.
I just want to tell all those who tried to help me and give me advice thankyou. I don't want I will do with myself now cause I feel a great part of me is missing and that I will never be hold again. But I have two daughters of my own and I will just concentrate on them. I don't think the GF will return but maybe she'll get her act straight and come looking for me but like I said I have my doubts.
Pray for me people, I be needing all the help I can get to get me through this.
Again thankyou, you are all good people<p>Sincerely 231 [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

It is sad when someone you love very much tells you that it's over and leaves.<p>It sounds like your GF has some unresolved issues that have prevented your relationship with her to prosper.<p>How long has she been divorced? If the answer is not long, then realize that relationships on the rebound almost always are doomed to end because not enough time has passed to put to rest any leftover issues from the previous marriage.<p>Even though this may sound cold, you may be better off in the long run without her. First thing is the fact that your GF has not been able to dedicate herself to the relationship because of xH and secondly she is very much influenced by her family that has not looked kindly on your relationship with her. If you marry her you'd probably be marrying her xH and her family, and that is something that you should consider very seriously since both have proven to be negative forces in your relationship.<p>I'm glad that you say that you will be concentrating on taking care of your little girls. I too am a single father with sole custody of my two daughters and they are quite a package sometimes [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] <p>May God grant you strenght, health, and wisdom to do what is right for you and your loved ones.<p>Joe

Hey joe;
Thanks for the moral support. No I don't have custody of my girls and they are far from little(teenagers). If you find some of my other threads you'll understand that they are going to move in with me once I get an apartment.The GF pushed me into getting them out of that hell they are in.
GF called to night,didn't say where she was but she was worried about me. She needs time to get her head straight but decided not to totally get rid of me. We'll remain freinds until she figures out what to do. You're right, at the moment I think I'll be better off getting out until she is ready to resume a relationship with me. Maybe by then people will have learned to back off and get their noses out of her business.
As for her divorce it's been a long process as he as always been dragging it out just to piss her off. As for her mother, all she wants is the ex back cause she feels he the greatest thing since slice bread and would use any thing to control and manipulate the GF into going back. Now she has gone too far and has pushed her own daughter away. No one there to blame but herself. As for the sister, GF took her and her two boys in when she left her phyically abusive husband and then turned around and stabbed GF in the back by spying and invading the GF privatcy. We all have lost here, Me the most I feel.<p>231 [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]