I open up my email this morning and see an email with attachment saying : "Sorry, but this is too funny."

It is a photo sent to me and to a few other family members of Jethro a photo of his daughter making a stupid face. And in the subject line to me he placed her name: Alexandria. Ha. He stole my baby name but MISSPELLED IT!

He had enough cajones to send me this and included in it ironically his close family members. Missing from the email list was coincidentally his ow, monkeyho's email addy.

So at least I got a kick outta fact that although he stole my baby name, he couldn't as usual spell it right. I had picked if my son had been a girl the name Alexandra. And in his business documents, the man always had me proof them and I was always circling them in red and correcting them before they went to employees or media or anything.

So here's my question.

Why in the hell after a very long and difficult divorce and adultery nightmare does your former husband send you a silly "joke" of an email featuring the child created outta infidelity to his xwife? And no, I love all children and do not at all feel anything bad towards this sweet baby. It's not her fault.

Why in the heck is he doing that? I want nothing to do with him and find it annoying that he would consider that I would want anything to do with him.

So either he sent it out or his wistress/wife sent it out and hijacked his email again and used it. She has done it before. Did it when she sent out baby pictures a few months ago.

So I sent it back to him so that if she sent it without his knowledge he would get it again.

But I really think it was him.

Are they on crack? Does he think it's now water under the bridge that I will just come over with a baby gift and a bundt cake and some starbucks coffee so we can sit down and "talk about the good times" while I ooh and ahhh over the almost illegit baby in my once dream house with him and a sleazy ho?

The good times have been erased from my memory banks.

What is with this idea we HAVE TO BE FRIENDS with our xs? Especially if our x's were abusive, cruel, and adulterers? Oh well. I guess we are to go along with this whole "it takes a village" mentality and just have a giant extended "family" complete with xw and xh and xfiancees who father OW's children and so on. At least that's what this dumb village would consist of. Oh and to add to it, a former serial adulterer xfil and enabling mil and a morbidly obese/adulteress sil and morbidly obese and unhappy bil. I am just thankful for my part of the village: son, my sis, my bil, my grandparents, great aunt and uncle.

????Why on earth did that idiot sent this to me and waste time hitting the send button for one nanosecond?

Hey Peachy,

On crack says it all--iz the chemicals.

They say it takes 18-24 months before brain recovers and for our xh's the brain damage is permanent.

Theze guys are lost. And non-issuses in our lives.We just have to tune them out. Zone out.

Maybe jethro needs one of those new recovery bibles (addictions), a brochure of a good treatment center tucked in. Bet that will stop the emails and a whole lot of other stuff. Maybe get him on the right path. He is the father of your son unfortunately.

When I dropped a Aventa Women treatment center for addictions brochure into xh, new sqeeze mailbox. My did that blow a gasket. The fireworks sparkin from that viper was flamethrowin.

I hit the target, now she will leave my kids alone.

xh wants to be friends but it will never happen. I don't make it a policy to have false friends in my life. If I did I iz a fool.

My part is to make sure that we never get in each other paths again.

I found out the other day, we had a new laws passed which could have prevented this whole mess. One can now get a mental health warrant where people, family members who prove to be harm to themselves and others can be picked up and taken in for a MH assessment for a whole month.

If they test for positive addictions, alchol, or drugs they are sent immediately to a treatment center.

About time-if we had this leverage prior a whole lot of stress and grief could have been avoided.

Your thoughts hon?

Peachy -- I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of knowing that - he got a rise out of you .... And as for the name - maybe his new wife actually liked that name... I mean Alexandria is a name also - but I wouldn't give him any kind of satisfaction what so ever... don't let him get to you ....

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by sky diver:
<strong>I found out the other day, we had a new laws passed which could have prevented this whole mess. One can now get a mental health warrant where people, family members who prove to be harm to themselves and others can be picked up and taken in for a MH assessment for a whole month. If they test for positive addictions, alchol, or drugs they are sent immediately to a treatment center.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Can you elaborate on this? Is this a state or federal thing? (This doesn't concern my XH but someone else in trouble.)

Sorry peachy, but after reading that I just had to start laughing at how rediculous it was! I have a good story from my own experience to share with you.

Here I am, going to MC with H, he moved out a week before to "get some space." Then he shows up beat up and says he needs to talk.

He takes me to this park and sits me down to tell me that he's having an A with a woman at work whom also happens to be M. Incidentally, her H beat him up the night before. Of course, I'm shocked, bawling, freaking out and he proceeds to tell me how wonderful she is, that I would really like her, she's such a great person and takes good care of him!

I took off that day. The next week he comes over to my home and sits down, wanting to be friends, and proceeds to start telling me again how wonderful things are with his new GF! And how great the sex is! WTF?!?!!?!?!

We hadn't even filed for D, we had only been separated for a few days! And then he tells me that he had an EA with her for 3 months prior to PA while we were going to counceling and never said a word one about it!

I just thought it was funny that not only my soon to be ex is completely INSANE!

I guess I have years of this to hear about huh? I don't think he's smart enough to figure out that I DONT WANT TO KNOW!

Thanks for the laugh!

Hi Buttercup.

We have more new laws passed in our city. I live up in Canada.

At one time, one could have someone possing a threats retained for 7 days but now the law has passed to a month.

What I have learned, if the person shows signs of being suidical, bi-polarism, violent etc.. One can obtain a mental health warrant, issued by a judge that the police pick that person up and taken to a hosptial for an complete assessment.


Because they are acting out of control, and dangerously showing that they are a danger to themselves and others.

If it is determined that they have alchol, or drug problems addictions, bringing on the behaviors, they are referred and ordered to an addictions clinic.

When my xh was havin psycotic breaks, he was drinking heavily, smokin pot, doin morphine, tynol codeine for chronic back pain condition, later treated with paxil for depression. The paxil. I learned since can bring on severe psychotic episodes, which I wasn't aware of.

Sad part no one was professionally managing his head space. Once we seperated our GP said there was nothing I could do, since we were seperated. Other than find someone in his immediate family to look out for him. That route was a disaster, xh family members have the same unresolved conflicts and addictions.
Then the new laws got passed recently.

Can you imagine the person headspace as my xh-nightmare in the our home. I doubted I would have left the home to seek safety at women shelter when he went bezerk.

How are family members, supposed to deal with complexities? This is the problem, they need professional care, attention, observation and support. We don't have the authority, leverage in our homes.

One can't work or solve marriage issues with people who are unbalanced, they don't have the capacity, and sometimes in such bondage to their chemicals they themselves can't get out.

Like Peachy, xh--he's abnormal and still cryin out for help, the maddness and trapped underneath alot of pain. He's in her face 24/7 because deep down inside he knows she right,sane, normal and strong.

Truth, is I am sure, if we all started drinkin heavily, doing hard chemicals, which wipes out one's values, consciences, we might be acting out the same way.

If the persons have a proper assessment then everybody is on the right page, knows what approach to take, cautions, and prevention is best remedy, as opposed to someone acting out, hurting, harming so many loved ones, needlessly and finacial loss could be greatly reduced....

How can someone under certain influences co-parent or be given child access when thier headspace, conduct is abnormal.

Hope that clarifies for you.