Hello to everyone, I am new here... I have a issue I need some assistance with. I have never been good at dealing with disapproval from my family... ie: My parents, aunts, Uncles... The entire group does tend towards being very judgemental and protective of each other.
My husband and I split last year and were going to divorce which my family was very supportive of. However, I came around and really started seeking God... and found that even though some really hurtful things had been done by my husband, God healed those hurts and we are talking and growing together. We are still living seperately, in fact, states and oceans apart, but we have been talking to our Pastors and booked flights and have begun to prepare for the children and I to move back with him.
HOWEVER. My family is not pleased. They have always been involved in counseling and offering others counsil at their churches... and they are all um... offering... it now.
I have always put my family before my husband. Took their side and did not argue. That hurt him really bad.
Right now my family is coming to me with scriptures... like the one in Proverbs that says that you should seek the counsil of many... and telling me I should not go back to my husband right now.
Basically, the choice has been made, tickets bought, pastors consulted, and I am trying to find a posative way I can tell my family to keep their nose out of my marriage and still be respectful to my elders.
Anyone with help??

Proverbs does say seek the counsel of many but it does not say, take their advice! Let your family know that you love them very much, and appreciate the advice, this is your decision to make, and that you have gone through quite a bit of counsel and believe that this is what God wants. They may at first not believe this, but over time they will see. You cannot go wrong when you are doing God's will. I have well intentioned family members as well, but it is never as simple as telling them "hey, this is my decision". But just pray and God WILL give you the right words to say to your family. Right now the most important thing is to reconcile your marriage. Don't worry about what they think.

Thank-you for responding!! The thing that hit me most in your reply was when you mentioned telling them I love them. Ah the battles that could diffuse... So I did reply to the major e-mail and await the reply, but have just gone to my parents and sister who live close by and been careful to say I love you over the last few days. It has softened things and even though we disagree about how I should be living life... at least we can be loving about it!!! Put in a prayer for me! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]