Hello all,

It's been a while since I last posted. Probably a few months. My very first subject post was Is she cheating? MY wife was involved in a very intense emotional affair with a co-worker. Once it was exposed and counseling began it was agreed that it would stop. Well as you may guess it didn't. I moved out about two weeks ago because I told her I felt like he was more important to her than I was or our family. I am having a very difficult time being on my own. I knew it would be hard but it's a lot harder than I ever expected. We are just seperated for now. The OM is married and I did finally meet with his wife on two seperate occassions. The whole time it has been going on I was told that his wife would just think I was crazy and that she trusted her husband. Well when I met with her I found out that they are in marriage counseling for the very same reason. This man is telling my wife that everything is fine at his house and that his wife is ok with it, when in fact I know it's not. I have told my wife that she is not ok with it or she wouldn't be calling me telling me shes not.

I should remind you guys that he is 21 years older than my wife. He and I have exchanged words on more than one occassion at this point and things escalate more everytime. I have decided to not contact him anymore because I feel like he's feeding off of it and this is all a game to him. Right now he has his wife and my wife eating out of the palm of his hand.

Is there anyway I can make my wife open her eyes to this situation? She is so wrapped up in him right now she doesn't listen to a word I say.