For the past two weeks WW has been hounding me about moving out of the house. Even threatening me.

She has been asking me where I would like my DV papers served, and even asked me if I had received them yet. I finally went to an attny and retained him. He told me she hadn't filed anything with the courthouse yet.

I checked with his office for a few days and then finally filed the DV paperwork myself. I asked her directly if she had filed and she said she did. So I was worried if she was running up bills and debt because she had told me she was waiting for a credit card to come in the mail. I filed to protect myself and the kids.

She found out the next day. I guess her attny found out I had already filed.

She was mad. She asked me how I could file for DV? It was against my religion.... what would my dead parents think ... what will the kids think... etc etc.

Then she wanted to know what I cited as the reason. I told her that we should let the attny's handle it, I'm not ready to talk to her about it. She asked if cited "irreconcilable differences". She told me I had "better not have cited adultury"

What is the difference? She is cheating, emotionally and physically. She sleeps all day because she is on the phone or computer with her west coast OM all night long.

I thought there would be some relief for her, even me, with the DV being filed... but she has hounded me since. Never wanted to talk before, but now pursues me, checks MB for posts and emails.

She asked if I was going on a date last night, my DD said yes, with her. LOL, but not really.
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Hey Tom,

Sorry to hear about your sit, but welcome to the cake eaters support group. What you describe seems to be very common among WS. You are giving her a glimpse into the reality of her actions. Stay the course and don't give into her occassional bouts of seeming to come around. Those spells won't last. She might even seemingly do a 180, but understand without a plan in place it will be short lived. I know my WW only gives enough to me to keep me confused and has been doing this for 18 months. I've had enough and am now staying my course.

GL and post often