How did your x marry the op?

I think I have one for the forum. Usually all that is written is that they went away & got married. Did your X have a public or private wedding. Who was invited?

D-22 said the wedding (month ago) was a surprise to the other church members. All of XH old friends, nieces, nephews didn’t know except the minister & XH’s (s/d} & OW’s kids & grandkids. plus XH immediate family. It took place during the regular Sunday church service. D arrived 15 minutes early & no one really visited with her. XH & others didn’t come in until right before the service. They have only lived in this small town for a year. It seems like they are just the pillars of the community. Oh well – just venting a little in my own “foggy” bs world.

Then XH told D that they went to Jamaica 2 weeks later for OW’s D wedding. OWxh paid for the wedding but didn’t attend. I know 2 years age when XH was telling me about OW the celebrated their 25th wedding Ann. by inclunding the adult kids on a cruise. Now it seems a little odd to have your D be with you on a 2 week delayed honeymoon trip. Do you thing your D would like you(parents) to be around on the young couples honeymoon. Just some more of the crazy world of the fog.

Any way trying to keep things light. <><

They got married in a small civil ceremony in their backyard. For the record, their backyard is neither large nor really nice. My kids said it was very simple and said it took less than ten minutes. Having only been to church wedding they were really shocked by this. Only close family and friends were invited.

In the two years since they had become engaged their wedding was reduced from a large church wedding (we are Catholic so he would've had to had his marriage to me annulled). After learning this they announced and made a big deal out of the fact that they had decided to do something more romantic than the typical church wedding and were going to Hawaii, but then that was cancelled due to lack of money. Thus the backyard wedding was a very anti-climatic ending, or should I say beginning?

Take care and God bless!
K

x just got married at a JP or something. Didn't tell the kids they still don't know when to send an Anniversary card. It was sometime in December. He didn't bring her for Christmas, nor for daughters surgery nor graduation. My MD finally said at Easter I want to meet OW and she and the other two drove to their dad's for the weekend.

I am thinking that he didn't want his two worlds to meet or that he was ashamed of what it was he was doing. I still have not meet her, have seen her one time but he didn't introduce us and it wasn't my job to do it!!!

When he comes to pick up YD he leaves her at the hotel.

I just don't get it!!! If you leave your family for this great, wonderful person wouldn't you want to show her off? Didn't even take her with to visit his parents the one day that he spent with them out of their 3 week vacation in FL.

Anyways, I have my life and that is what I live, not his wouldn't want to, cause someday soon it's going to crash!!! Been a little over 3 years since A hit the light of day!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

My X planned his wedding with OW in total secrecy.....except for her family and friends. He didn't tell me, his 3 children, or his own parents about getting married. I found out by accident from someone he used to work with!!!!! Also, when he got married, our divorce wasn't even final.....
Talk about the fog!!!!!!!

My ex married OW at the justice of the peace within days after our divorce was final, which was just 6 weeks after we separated for the last time, and about 5 weeks after her divorce was final. I was so thankful they didn't try to do anything that included the kids, and I was also glad it happened so quick because it gave me definite closure on my marriage, knowing for sure reconciliation was out. (I had no desire whatsoever to reconcile, and obviously he didn't either, but my children were distraught, and I would've done a lot to take that pain away at that point.) He put a huge tatoo on his arm with chinese letters saying something about love and their wedding date on it. I bet she made him get it so he doesn't sleep with all of HER friends. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
I also heard through her ex husband that they have a huge copy of their marriage certificate framed and placed near the front door. Apparently they need that to remind themselves they are married before they leave the house. They've been married 2.5 years, live in a huge huge house, drive nice cars, and seem like they have everything. But they only have their respective children 4 days a month, they do not seem like happy people, and have very few friends. I have much less money, a much smaller house, but I have my kids, my faith, and lots of friends. I wouldn't trade places with them for anything.

Wow &#8211; Thanks for replying back. My computer was in the shop & I thought I need other relationships other than with on-line chatting. I have lurked but not written much lately. D-day pre 9/11 & also exploded with many outbursts.

I know the A script & wedding just part of plan, & I expected it to take place months before. I just didn&#8217;t expect it to be a part of the regular Sunday service. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I have for the most part let it go & trying to love beyond what I feel. A few years ago I placed new meaning to a wall hanging &#8211; &#8220;We are one love &#8211; forever.&#8221; When we were first married 26 years ago &#8211; I inferred it was about our marriage &#8211; Five years ago I looked to it as God & I are the only one love forever. &#8211; Well &#8211; change to positive thoughts.

Who am I now &#8211; for the most part I have peace & the love/support of my family, kids, & many friends. My bp has dropped from 156/90 to 126/78. I miss his family & light hearted discussions, but I don&#8217;t miss the omissions or the tension. I wish I didn&#8217;t have to help the kids prepare for the event & tried to help take some of the pain away from them by not showing what I was going through. We discussed that the church should be the place for all people to turn to & receive the grace & mercy of god&#8217;s gifts.

kk2002 &#8211; Hey, We got div on the same day!

Daybreak &#8211; Yeah, you would think your X would want to show off the &#8220;new model wife.&#8221; My x is so in love they show their affection to each other at many school events of s-17. I agree &#8211; I can sleep peacefully & enjoy the life I have now also.

Still reeling &#8211; D-22 also said it seemed to be just going through the motions. After the lunch reception D ask about pictures & that she needed to be getting on the road &#8211; 6 hour drive. Both of our kids then left. I&#8217;m sure X wanted a bigger event, but he usually can&#8217;t get details planned. That weekend was to have been my parents 50th Annivs. reception, we postponed it until later this summer.

I know it really doesn&#8217;t help me to try to figure out the motivation or why during the Sunday service. I guess I just needed to let some steam off a little.

My xh married the wistress one week after D was signed by judge.

I think it happened over new years' at disneyworld...ironically where xh and I went on OUR honeymoon...My son didn't know about it. She was 7.5 mos. preggers at the time. In feb., they threw a wedding/baby reception/dinner at my once dream house. That's just strange and wrong. I got email from his partners' wife from work that she also didn't like it and was still kinda in shock and reeling from the crud of the last 2 years...

Ironically, xh never told me even when the baby was born. He had the hospital wristband on and kept putting his hand in his shorts pocket when he was dropping son off at my house. Being in medical field, I saw it right away and all it took was 1 look from me to know that he was putting nothing over on me.

So...this golddigging woman did not get a dream wedding, my former dream house is being sold now, she's got sometimes three children under her roof...There's three kids with two different fathers and three kids with two different mothers. It's screwed up. Imho, it sounds like chaos...not the lovenest they wanted. Plus he's still cheating on her.

This week he went to FL with my son and the wistress and kids. He also went to work and do a few sales meetings too....I spoke w/him today and he said it's rained all week. Poor x and the wifeypoo. Ironically I'm taking my son to FL again in 2 more weeks and son will hopefully get some sunshine with me.

The OP's wedding is still not the white wedding they wanted...More like the song "White Wedding" by Billy Idol...

I feel like googling a song here.

Ok. Here's a little ditty for all of us who have had our x's marry before the ink's dry...

I especially like the part about "hey little sister...shotgun" (reminds me of my x's simultaneous wedding and baby shower)

Here goes.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> "WHITE WEDDING" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
Hey little sister what have you done
Hey little sister who's the only one
Hey little sister who's your superman
Hey little sister who's the one you want
Hey little sister shot gun!

It's a nice day to start again
It's a nice day for a white wedding
It's a nice day to start again.

Hey little sister who is your with
Hey little sister what's your fasinish
Hey little sister shot gun (oh yeah)
Hey little sister who's your superman
Hey little sister shot gun!

It's a nice day to start again (come on)
It's a nice day for a white wedding
It's a nice day to start again.

(Pick it up)

Take me back home

Hey little sister what have you done
Hey little sister who's the only one
I've been away for so long (so long)
I've been away for so long (so long)
I let you go for so long

It's a nice day to start again (come on)
It's a nice day for a white wedding
It's a nice day to start again.

There is nothin' fair in this world
There is nothin' safe in this world
And there's nothin' sure in this world
And there's nothin' pure in this world
Look for something left in this world
Start again

Come on
It's a nice day for a white wedding
It's a nice day to start again.
It's a nice day for a white wedding
It's a nice day to start again

I have no idea when or if they married. He told the kids they had, but over a year later his w-2 still said he was single. About a year after that, it said he was married, but since the OW has access to the financial records at their mutual place of employment, who knows?

Rufus wants to marry his gf. I've stalled the divorce as long as I can. But he is pushing me because he says he wants to marry her before winter. Not if I can help it!

I don't really know how public/private. I don't really care. My children were there. That's all I know. Don't know where the wedding was. How big the wedding was. Doesn't impact my life. No point fretting about it.

Oh, sorry, I just realized you were talking about OP weddings. The OP in my divorce was too smart to date my then stbx and married someone else before we were even divorced - but I made him work for about 3.4 years for that divorce. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

He did later marry a different woman. I like her more than I like x. But their wedding was their wedding. So, I never even asked children about it. I really didn't care.

<small>[ July 20, 2004, 09:09 PM: Message edited by: cinderella ]</small>

EX-H married OW 5 months after our divorce was final in a castle in Europe which cost $10,000 per day to rent. She wore a white dress with a train (this woman is 57 years old...) and her daughters were bridesmaids. They left the reception in a helicopter and honeymooned in Venice. She is telling her coworkers that her engagement ring cost $35,000 but EX says he does not have enough money to help pay for our oldest son's college education. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />