Hi everyone,
I've posted a few times on the infidelity board - my husband is addicted to porn to the point that it became an issue where I felt like he was cheating on me. It got very very bad, I won't go into all the details, but had been getting better the last 2 months or so. He was doing great not looking at porn, but he slipped up last week. I forgave him and he's remorseful and all that. OK - so I'm still trying to regain my trust for him last week when I saw what looked like a hickey on his shoulder. This guy does NOT bruise for anything except a car accident, if that. He said he was surprised that I was suspicious, but blah blah blah, he didn't cheat on me, etc. (I've been suspicious about this woman he woks with, thus my fear). He said he has "always" had that mark on his shoulder - he hasn't. OK - now onto Mother's Day. We have two wonderful baby boys and a third on the way. I have never got a gift from him all three Mother's Days I have celebrated - not even a card. Came close last year when he let me pick something out for myself Mother's Day morning.
He didn't forget Mother's Day, he just didn't get me anything, no card, no gift, nada. It's not that I want gifts or I'm greedy for stuff, but I want to be appreciated. Instead, he was late coming home for work and I get nothing, not even a feeling of appreciation for all I do. He just looked like he was trying to cry and said he was a jerk and that I deserved better, all that nonsense.
My problem is that I get no feeling of appreciation for what I do. I work my booty off for the family and my education (getting my bachelor's this summer), and he does too, but the difference is that I make him feel appreciated and loved through it all. I feel like cr*p. Is this just another case of the underappreciated Mom? Just something I'll have to get used to? I told him last night that my emotional needs are not being met, and if they continue not to be met in such a large way I'll have to look elsewhere for the love and comfort I need. NOT meaning that I would have an affair, that I would get new friends, give more outdoor time to my boys, go to the gym, get a hobby, etc. Just something to fill the void that he won't. If I'm out of line, please tell me so! Any wise words?

I do not think your are out of line but would watch out for threats.<p>In regards to the porn, many women don't understand that men act out sexually with visualization. A man can actually have sex w/ someone he hates (I am a man) and that bewilders many women.<p>Do you have your sexual needs fulfilled? I turned to porn after my wife wouldn't have sex w/ me. A man has to get "it" out. Period.<p>If you could (now this is just a suggestion) ask him if you can be included. Disgusted? Imagine how things will turn out if you try to get your needs fulfilled elsewhere?
If you eliminated his only source of release (porn) or make him feel guilty about it, he will seek the reality of an affair. BELIEVE ME.
I am not very religious so this might not sit well w/ you and I apologize. Your subject is close to my heart. My wife will not even discuss sex w/ me and she was caught in a PA 24 hours ago. I am coping.