My H and I have been having problems for a long time. I just didn't realize how serious it was until he started EA 4 mo ago. Anyway, part of his EA was confiding in OW about his depression. I knew he was on med. but had no idea how serious his depression was or that the med. had neg. sex side effects. When he wasn't getting aroused, I thought it was me. The dr. changed med. put him on Effexor 150 mil. H lowered it to 75 mil. because sex suffered. Unfortunately, so did his mental state. Result, EA. He has finally opened up after asking for separation (plans to leave end of June). I got him to dr. and he prescribed wellbuturin (not sure of spelling) says it should help depression and possibly improve sex. He is still on effexor as well. Anyone have experience with this? Also a friend is on zoloft (female) says it improved sex for her. Also heard celexa is good. Any input?

My wife is on Zoloft for depression and our sex life is no better and maybe even worse. Of coarse being seperatedd doesn't help but prior to seperating she had little drive at least with me.