Hello,<p>I'll just start saying hi to everyone here, as it's my first post. I Don't live in the states so I hope i'm still welcome here, as I need some advice..<p>I've known this girl for 3 months now, she became a good friend of mine, we actually dont really meet so often as she's in school and stuff I actually met her trough the internet , actually i've been chatting alot with her mom, but when I got to their home I got to know her, so it's kind of an internet/real life aqquaitance...<p>I'll just bust the door by saying that sometimes I don't understand her. It's not a problem of comunicating regular things, like talking to eachother about this and that (superficial things of daily life).. But she seems to have a lot of troubles connecting with herself. I can feel she is an extra-ordinary person, at the level of sweetness, but also at other levels. <p>She shared a few secrets with me. I'm here to try to find feedback on a problem that maybe you guys can deal with, because I kinda feel unexperienced.... <p>Something has happened earlier in her life that made her very scared of lots of things.. I dont know if the sexual part that happened to her early in life have made her come this far.. or that it also might be the fact that it is a mental problem added to that...<p>She had problems how to behave under water (tries to breath). She is telling me she wants to be the world leader in keeping her breath because when others push her under, that way she could survive....<p>she cuts her nails almost at the point that all her fingers start bleeding becaus she cuts too far. She is a beauty, and she has some medical reasons to stay "skinny" so everyone lookes at her as if she has annorexia, while in fact its another problem... well i'm not going to say too much I don't know how information is being treated here but ok.... You have to realise that all these things do not frustrate me in anyway, she is sweet and heartful when I talk to her, but i'd like to crack her key... if you know what I mean, and she can't really explain it herself.. <p>What puzzles me the most is that she's constantly telling me I dont have to be beautiful to be nice to her, yet she watches all these shows ER, VIP, Charmed.. where the centralized point is to see sexy guys and girls, then she goes trying to put up an image of "hard to get & beautiful, just like in these series" at school she does not do that with me but sometimes she's like , wanting me to confirm her beauty, in public: but she doesnt like me saying that shes beautiful in private when we're together...<p>I just wonder isn't this a little bit of a dangerous predicament? I could be more friends with her if she could tell me what she really feels, not jumping from one roof to another all the time, she even tells she doesn't want to become "as fat as an elephant" when she's pregnant... How do you tell someone like that that this is nature...., when she tries to tell me that she isn't being influenced by the commercial media and subliminal messages and TV programs, then what is it that drives her to be so totally fixed on her appearence, yet so kind and unaware of it when she is talking to me...?<p>Someone having a clue? She is so sweet and I do not really want to constantly ask her questions to insult her intelligence any further than she feels already... because some parts of her I do understand and can find logical answers for, but because i've never met someone quite like her I ask some general advice on a site like this.. If only she could analyze herself more [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>K<p>[ May 18, 2002: Message edited by: K-pax ]</p>
