Hello! Sorry I am new to this board, so I am not too sure that I am in the right place. I do not understand the abreviations(other than I know OW is other woman). My dh filed for divorce in May and it is still in the process. I do not want this marriage to end and am not sure what I can do or what I should do to try and stop this. I do know that where Missouri law says it is no fault divorce state, it is not truly that. I have recently found laws that state I can fight this and likely a judge will either dismiss the divorce case or order legal seperation. I believe that dh is going through an early midlife crisis and that I know of there is no OW. He says no and I have to take him on his word at that. He has been under a lot of stress from work and made a lot of life changing decisions concerning our family in the last few months. I can go into more detail if needed or if anyone thinks that they can help. I am just so lost as to what I should do. We have an 8yo ds and a one yo dd and I want to fight for this marriage but I guess I am at a loss as to how to do that. Thank you for your time!

Without knowing too much about you, it seems that you may be on the wrong board. You might want to be in General Questions. The people there are working through the difficulties of their situation to see if the marriage can be recovered. Most everyone here on the Divorce forum has spent months and years trying to reconcile with their former spouse but did not see reconcilation happen. It is not an easy thing to do. In fact it is the hardest thing I ever tried to do. Divorce is the other hardest thing I ever tried to do. There are no easy answers in the "boat" we are sailing in.

You will have to discover if you want your marriage to recover and if you want to work through the things that are dividing you both. It takes 2 to tango and also takes 2 to hurt a marriage. I suggest you read His Needs/Her Needs by S. Harley. It was very instrumental for me to see what I needed and where I failed my husband. After 1 1/2 years of trying to work things out, I discovered that my husb was unwilling to work on anything. It also takes 2 to make a marriage work and for some reason, I did not understand that.

I did not want to divorce and still don't but know that I have to accept the inevitable for me.
The most important thing is that you grow, find strength from God, be the best Mom you can be and pray for God to show you the way.

TW