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i recently found out about my husband's affair.he agreed to end the affair and we are trying to work it out.any advice or words of wisdom?eajake2
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Get over to the Emotional Needs board if you want to salvage your marriage.
Read all the MB concepts and the books for wonderful ways to improve and recover your M.
There's an MB seminar next month - which could jumpstart your recovery.
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Welcome to MarriageBuilders. Sorry that you are going through this...it's so hard.
If you are trying to reconcile, I would head to the General Questions II or Recovery boards.
Good luck!
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what am i doing.i appreciate your response and understanding.thank you.
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Make sure that he ends ALL contact with her !!!!
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wonderingwhatsup.my husband has broken all ties with OW.i am not extremely an outspoken person but that is one thing i insisted on if we were going to work it out.i don't think it is an unusual request and my husband and i are also spending more quality time together.use to when i got home from work after working some of the long hours i would pull working in retail,i wouldn't want to go and see a movie and things like that.now i am going more places with my husband and also trying to reduce my workload when i can so i can have a balanced personal life and work life.i love my husband with all my heart and i know he wants to work it out also.
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Sounds like you are moving in the right direction! How about some marriage counseling with a GOOD pro-marriage counselor? There is phone counseling available right here on this site. Check it out!
So, you should be in Plan A (have you read up on this?) and working on filling each others' emotional needs.
This will take some time to fully recover, so stay with us and hang in there!
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EA Jake2:
When I confessed an affair to my x-wife, she immediately sought revenge by starting an affair. I am curious whether this crossed your mind as one way to respond. If so, what has stopped you from taking revenge and what has been your main motivation for wanting to work things out. By the way, I whole-hearted applaud your desire to work things out!!
Standing Patiently
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EA Jake
Welcome to MB. You have been given some good advice already. Please read up on all the articles here at MB. Our situations may all differ slightly, but there are commonalities too.
I noticed that your signature line has a name...if that is your real name, you may want to delete it; this is a public board and ANYONE, including your husband, can find it and read everything you post.
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Conisder yourself lucky that your H is trying to work things out. My H has moved out and is in a major FOG. He still talks to OW. I'm now in plan B. I guess I'll just watch him fall on his face!
What else can I do?
Good luck to you. Read all the books you can and keep posting!
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