I need anyones opinion at this point.

First I have been all through this web site for help, and now I need to know how to approach my H with the info. We both know that we need help with our marriage we even went to see a counselor,but that was just a horrible experience. H belittled me and made it sound like it was all me and that is why were having problems, and now he does not want to see that counselor again. We have been married for 1 yr and 4 months, and I am about ready to run to the hills and just give up. He says that I need to go and see a shrink, but I don't believe so.
He does not meet most of my emotional needs, and I know that I don't meet some of his and i want to try, but i don't know how to approach him with it, without getting into a arguement about what he doesn't and does do. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

<small>[ August 30, 2004, 11:09 PM: Message edited by: laura_lee ]</small>

No,NO, NO,...it is not you....typical FOGGY explanation. My ex tried to do that to me for years. I knew it wasn't right...but it is hard to make your heart believe it.

Laura_lee is right...pull back and take care of yourself. Set some boundaries and act like you would like to be treated...and treat him like you would like to be treated. And post here.....

If he doesn't want to see "that" counselor again, perhaps he would be open to a phone session with the Harleys.

1. you're still working on the counseling
2. he's exposed to the info you want him to be exposed to.

Counseling & Coaching Center

WIWH

Well I have pulled back,and that has not really gotten me anywhere. It is not helping us deal with our many issues. We have 3 kids and I work full time also, and he just feels that he does not have to help me with the kids or the house. He does what he wants when he's ready. And it was not like that before when we got married. But expects me to cook, clean, and take care of him too, while he does nothing.... I do mean nothing. He spend no time with the kids, much less me. And I truly believe that we are floating so far apart it's like we have nothing in common at all. And this is just one of our issues. I really don't know if he would do the phone counseling, but it is worth a try.
Thanks for reply

Dear Cookie,

I think you should take his advice and go see a shrink. Talking to someone (like a shrink) will help to clear your head and maybe help you to understand better what is going on in your life and your marriage.

At least you'll get another opinion about whether you are crazy or not... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />