I am taking a Divorce Care class at a local church and the topic the other week was about the affects of divorce on children. The class is lead by a christian family therapist. Divorce Care is christian based. So last week I learned that it would of been better for MY CHILDREN if I stayed in a crappy marriage rather that getting divorced. Only if there was "abuse" then it's not best for the children to get divorced. I asked the lady, "so it's better for the children when the dad is gone for 3 days and we don't know where he is because he's out drinking and it's better to raise them that way teaching them that it is o.k. to live like that?" and she said "yes". She said "now your sending your kids unsupervised to a drunk father" I understand that the kids will be affected no matter what, but how can staying in a very dysfuntional marriage/family situation be better for the kids?