One of my most current problems is an overwhelming sense of lonliness. Part of it is feeling isolated because there are so few people I have anything in common. Next there is the feeling of undesirableness. Not because I'm overly ugly but lets face it, I was more attractive 20 years ago when I was dating. Then, what have I done with my life? I have raised five children (2 graduated, 3 at home and one is only 3 1/2). And to make matters worse they are all on special diets!!!!

I regret none of my choices. I am glad I was a stay-at-home mom and still will be until my extra money (like alimony) runs out. But the downside is lonliness.

And like so many others have complained, your spouse cheats, and all your friends scatter. Its not fair but it is the reality. I do have two friends because of the cheating but they have families and are very busy and sometimes I feel like I'm intruding.

Then, he gets the beautiful young wife and the money that went with her. I know it will not last but at the moment it feels like he is blessed and I am not.

I am guessing this is just something that has to run its course but it feels good to vent.

I know how you feel....{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

I feel extremely lonely too. It's very hard to get used to being by yourself when you've always had someone there with you. I feel unwantd and empty inside. Everybody is saying to hang in there and it will get better. I have to believe that!!!!!
We will survive!!!!! We are all here for you!!!!
Take care of YOU!!!!!

Yeah Im a member of the lonely brigade too, but take heart, take this time to get closer to God, he has a plan and will put someone in your life

Created,
I'm feeling your pain!

I feel so much of what you are talking about.

I too am a SAHM.
I have no regrets being a SAHM, it has been a major blessing as my D had a very serious illness which I was needed at home.
The flip side though, is that it is terribly lonely.
I know if I had a job, there would be potential for me to meet someone.

My kids were away this past whole week, and weekend. It was incredibly lonely!

It's the first time in my life that I have been alone. I married young (married for 18 yrs) always had boyfriends before I got married. This is my first solo time since I was about 16.
It's a real adjustment.

It would be very nice to have a good circle of single friends to do things with.
My friends are all married. They do lunch with me, but as far as much else, they are busy with their families. (which is how it's supposed to be)

Anyway, I wanted to let you know I feel your pain.
It's nice I know I'm not alone!

K.

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I just ordered this book after I talked to this minister/author on the phone-I wrote about the experience on RECOVERY- "old friends and new -your support please" is my thread. this book is about D and recovery.

Let go and let God- Jesus is waiting for you....

PEACE IN...and OUT!

I know when I write on this website, there are so many who are going through the same thing. Although I am sad that so many in this day and age suffer from WS's, I love the encouragement so many give.

My WS loves to make sure he takes every visitation (even though when we were married I could barely ever get a break) because he knows I miss the girls so much.

I understand too that working gets you in a place where you can meet people but it does not seem possible right now. I have a 3 1/2 year old with serious health risks. She is healthy because I am doing everything right but she gets diahrrea at the drop of a hat and I cannot expect a babysitter to do what I do. The courts gave me extra child support because of it so I can stay at home. It will end in 2 years (school age).

I probably am not ready to meet anybody so its probably a good thing. But it is so hard not to really really want someone. I am trying to let the LORD fill my heart but I still desire flesh & blood in front of me. I guess my prayer is that the LORD become so real, I no longer desire a man in my life until HE decides it is time.