i just found out six days ago that my husband, whom i had been having issues with for the last month, has been seeing someone and the day after he moved his clothes out and got his own place, had her there with him, just six days ago !!! am i dilusional for not believing him when he says he had never spoken to her before last friday ????

No, and nor should you believe anything else he says.

I empathize with you, truly.

No one can say if he had been cheating on you or not. Probably, yes...but I also know that some people deal with breakups by distracting themselves and delving into new relationships--an ego saver, I would guess and a way to distract themselves from the pain and troubles involved in the troubled relationship. One thing is certain--don't trust a single word that comes from him. He is not going to tell you the truth. I seriously doubt he'd up and say he was cheating (though if you must delve into the subject with him, I seriously reccomend a hidden little tape recorder...), and if he wasn't, the fact remains, he has this girl with him. So, if she is merely a distraction and he still loves you and wants you to still love him and all, he will downplay the relationship with this other person to you (and vice versa with her for awhile....).

All that said, I think the best advice is to ALWAYS trust your intuition. Take care

thank you both for the input... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> he admitted to me on tuesday that he was seeing someone...that someone being her. this was AFTER he came to the house and suggested we have sex....when i informed him that wasn't going to happen, at least not without protection, he proceeded to get pissy and say i made him feel dirty and so on. since this night, we have not spoken and he has become extremely hateful towards me, and is wrapping himself more into the relationship with her. do i rip her head off when i see her, or just let it roll of my back, due to who knows what he has told her, and she has no idea what is really going on ??? i think if i do see her i will inform her of the facts and let her decide if he is worth it or not ?? in the mean time, how do i make the hurt in my heart go away ???????

do you have kids? if not, use your get out of Jail free card, and pass Go, and collect $200

wiftty

a son
and unfortunately this is hard for me to accept....sorry, but i'm trying <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

You should probably post on the general questions forum. You are a long way from divorce. Start in Plan A. You can read all about it on the link in my sig. line.