Me and my ex have been divorced for almost 6 months. She opened a coffee shop and met a man in June. She moved in my cousin to babysit my kids while she tried to run this shop with her girlfriend.
My cousin finally divulged to me on Labor Day, that this guy (her boyfriend) has recently started sleeping there. I also got this information from my 12 year old daughter. There is also a special needs daughter of 8 living there as well. I am upset, because she doesn't know this man very well. She is also considering moving this man in to the house in about a month. My cousin feels very uncomfortable, but she doesn't want to leave my girls alone there. I find out that all the time she was supposed to be working at this shop during the summer, she has been running around with him. My 19 year old cousin has been doing the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and watching my girls for her while only getting paid about $2 and hour. Now with school, my cousin is the one getting them off to school. She even switced weekends with me to spend more time with this guy, while telling me a lie that she wants to spend more time with the girls. My cousin says she rarely sees the girls. When my ex goes out, she never answers her phone. My youngest has a seizure disorder. I was also told that she would have sleepovers for my daughter, and then go spend the night with this guy while my cousin watched all these kids. Basically she has spoiled my kids whole summer, and I feel that she is neglecting them.
I checked on this guy. He is broke, lives in a rundown house converted into apartments, has tatoos, and has file bankruptcy and been foreclosed. He also has some domestic violence and inciting fear charges on his record with his past two wives. My wife has a significant amount of money from a settelment for my daughter, and she is spending money like crazy. She has blown through $20,000 in about 4 months. She doesn't even pay my cousin half the time. I pay her almost $700 a month for one child, because my other daughter gets a six-figure check for the next 26 years. My cousin told me that after she went to her for more money, my ex told her to document what she spends and what she should make. She wants this to take me back to court for more child support, which my cousin didn't feel was fair. This is because she spends so much money.
I am furious and it is taking every ounce of restraint to keep from breaking her and this guys necks. I have contacted my attorney to get physical custody of my children, because I feel that she is neglecting my girls and placing them in harms way. My cousin plans to testify for me.
I would appreciate anyone's advice as what I should do, preferably from experience. I never thought that she would be this way. I am furious!!!!
