This is not where I want to be, but maybe your feedback will keep me out of here

8 mo ago, wife and I had a bad argument,which moved to a shove by me after we were too close while yelling. I was shaken to my core, and wanted to apologize there and then, which was considered by my wife to be pursuit in anger. (which I can see now) but in my heart that was not the case.

The argument ended after 10 minutes (18M, 21 together-of love ruined in 10 minutes) with me being asked to leave. After begging for a chance to stay, she approved, and after 2 weeks I was back in room with her. Again, NEVER had anything like this happened before.

After 8 months ( have been in counselling since week after incident) we are friends, still go to dinner, play tennis, socialize, but as far as affection goes, there is none, and she says time will hopefully be the answer.

3 kids at home, where I want to be, and I understand who is to blame here. Should I be optomistic, being I am still home, or am I fooling myself into false hope.

Well you are home and she believes that time will be the answer so I see nothing wrong with optimism.

It sounds to me like you are taking steps in the right direction to show her that you know you did something wrong.

Does she know that you are here on MB. If not she should. Show her how much her and your M means to you by showing her that you are, not only going to MC, but are also looking for ways to improve the loving relationship between the 2 of U.

Best to you both

WIWH