I have been posting here for over a year, and would like folks to check in on the General Questions forum, and give an update.

The whole time I have posted here, I have posted to many, many people. Most have restored their marriage, or if they ended up divorced, were relieved. I know there are a few that got divorced, and are not happy.

So folks, how about letting us know if this program works. There are lots of members asking that question.

It made no difference one way or the other. The sensible thing to have done would have been to have divorced my H as quickly as possible on the condition that he agree to a financial settlement that would have allowed us to maintain a decent standard of living. However, I could not do that because it would have been dishonest to pretend that I wanted a divorce when I did not. Within reason, nothing the BS does or doesn't do makes any difference whatsoever in the outcome - although I suppose one could reduce the chances of reconciliation by, say, trying to blow up your spouse's car with your spouse in it.

As to Plan B resulting in a loss of love, my experience is that that is completely untrue. I have almost no contact with my H, and that has been the case for years. I will always love him. Love is permanent, and is not contingent on anything as nebulous as meeting "emotional needs."

nellie - Could you copy your reply to the General Questions Forum? I thought it would be good to have all of the replies in one place. Thanks

Sure.

Hi,

I would say I have Plan A'd for four months. It has been very painful pouring my love out on this man and receiving very little in return. Then I heard on the Radio about desparate women trying to keep a man who is just not into them. Who disrespects them, cheats on them, but tells them he loves them just in case he might want them. Urrgh. Then I realized I have been acting like a desparate woman pouring my heart out to my husband. Then I cried my heart out. I called my husband and told him that you get out what you put in. I told him if he wanted something out of our relationship he needed to start putting something in it. I said he was hurting me in that I am putting 100% in and I am receiving very little. I said, I don't know about you but I want this relationship now. I told him that he needed to decide if he wanted it before it was too late.