Discovered my wife was having 'what she claimed' was an emotional affair with an old high school friend from Classmates due to our failing marriage. She claimed that she never slept with him but has lied on many occasions about other pieces of this situation (email addresses, cell phones, letters etc...).

I am in counseling with her now but will be making the final decision at the end of the year so that we do not spoil the holidays for the kids. She desperately wants to stay with me but I want the divorce. The key to the whole thing is that I do not know the full story as to what really happened and due to her lying behavior in the past I cannot go on without ever fully knowing the truth.

I was contemplating surveilance euipment but due to costs and the fact that I just do not want to try anymore I decided against it. Plus I have a gut feel (that has been right with many factors all along) that she may have broken up with him.

I will be making a decision based on trust with a person who cannot be trusted! She claims that she has indeed lied to me in the past but not about this. I am tired of being stepped all over although I do take responsibility for her talking to this guy in the first place due to my lack of emotional support towards her.

<small>[ September 23, 2004, 02:03 PM: Message edited by: BigMark ]</small>

Have you read all the information on this site? I recommend you post this on GQII since you're still working on your marriage. You'll find people there dealing with the same trust issues you are. Although you sound like you've already made up your mind, I'm assuming that by posting here you're asking for help to save your marriage. There are many on GQII and Recovery who's marriages have survived despite lies and infidelity. I'd start there...