Do I tell my friend or do I just toss it?<p>About a year ago my H and I helped out some friends. They had to move, some of their stuff was stored in our garage and attic. Their son asked if he could put some stuff in our camper becuase he wanted to be able to get at it and our garage has a leak in the roof, he didn't want it to get wet. <p>About a month ago, I noticed the camper door was open, I checked it out. I noticed some stuff in the camper (forgetting that they put some stuff in ther).Because I was being suspicous about my H, I snooped into what is was. I found porn magazines. I also noticed that it belonged to my friends teenage son. So I called and told her about it. She was not alarmed, and it didn't bother her. I told her that I did not want it in the camper where my kids could see it. So he came and got it. He forgot a bag. My H found it, beside a couple of magazines, there was movies XXX, I told my H about her reaction when I first told her and that she probably would not care. (when he first told me I jokingly said should we watch, we might learn something [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] , totally shocked the H, he was silent for a while). Today, we did decide to see how bad they were. I had no clue what made a movie rated XXX. I've seen the R and R that should be X, and I'm not thrilled with the nudity, but it does not shock me. I was in a different room when my H put the tape in and I hear this sound of total disgust, I went to see what it was, and we are talking 2 men, let your imaginations do the rest. Since my friend was not alarmed about the magazines would you tell her about the movies and give them to her, or would you just toss and not say a word????? My first inclination was to tell her, but she does not seem alarmed by this behavior and I thinking I might be wasting my time and maybe I should just throw away and not mention it.<p>[ June 15, 2002: Message edited by: Sue with hope ]</p>

If my 16yr old had a porn mag I would not be alarmed (we would have a discussion about it though), video's however i would be alarmed about especially if they are showing homosexual sex. I vote to tell the boys parents.

I helped a friend pack to leave her husband once, she was in a hurry so I packed the teens room, I came across some sexual collectors cards, like baseball cards but porn. I was kind of shocked, but thought she should know, because I would be suprised to find this in my sons room.
She didnt seem to be bothered at all and gave me a box to put them in. I think you should not tell her what is on the tapes, just call her and ask her to come get them or you are going to throw away. I can understand your concern about your children finding them.

I wouldn't even call her, I would just throw them away. If this boy's sexual orientation is *that* way, nothing is going to change it and embarrassing him isn't going to help anything. I would just trash it. I'm sure he will never ask about it.