I'm new to this website and all that goes along with it. I am married but my husband has moved out and is currently moving on with his life without me and the kids. He sees the kids on his days off from work and we are civil to each other, but we haven't even gotten lawyers yet(too expensive) and he's already got a whole new life. I feel like my heart has been ripped out and it doesn't really seem to bother him at all. He readily admits that this is all his doing and he apologizes for hurting me and not telling me sooner he didn't want to be married anymore, but even with him taking the blame(which I realize is just a way to keep us from fighting), I am still lost and confused. It's been about 2 months now and I don't feel any closer to understanding what the hell happened. I'm leaving out alot, I know, but I just wanted to sorta say hi and let ya know where I am in this process.

((((((((BrokenHearted)))))))))

Welcome to our little corner of the world, I'm sorry that you're here but please know that it's a great place to be. Most of the people here are wonderful, understanding, caring and kind. Plus a lot of us have the "Been There Done That" kind of thing going on.

I do hope that you take some time read though the information on the site and when you feel comfortable, please share some more with us.

Hugs, THoughts, & Prayers

Thanks Bill. I appreciate the welcome. I have been reading the posts and so far I am fairly terrified of what's coming. I see most of everyone having a terrible time coping and getting through all of this. I am not sure I can handle any of this! How do you all get by day after day when your life/future has been just torn to shreds?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by brokenhearted04:
<strong> How do you all get by day after day when your life/future has been just torn to shreds? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Day by day, hour by hour, or minute by minute, whatever it takes and you can't focus too far ahead. "Just for today" seems like a good motto.

How old are your children and how are they taking things?

Thanks again...I am trying to do that. One baby step at a time.
my kids are 11(almost 12), 9, 8, 6 and 4. They are doing much better than I am. They see both of us every week. They don't see us fighting. They think we are best friends. I realize that I may not be seeing what they see accurately, but honestly, I am accutely aware of them at all times, so I am actually just proud of them for being able to just see the good parts of this and not focus on the bad stuff. As long as they don't feel like they've lost eithe of us, they seem to be happy.
maybe i'm just deluding myself though

Our girls were 12, 9, & 6 when we separated. The 12yo was the only one that had a "feeling" that things weren't right. Our 9yo was lost and the 6yo was just confused and didn't fully understand. I had the great fortune and ability to put them in counselling with a wonderful woman. Not only did she help my girls, she gave me some tools to use when I could see them getting down.....

I know it has to be extremely tough right now and know that there are a lot of people out here who will listen and offer advise.

Hugs, THoughts, & Prayers