Iv'e been with my wife for about a year now.I'm very much in love with her and to this day she has given me no suspicions of her cheating on me,she shows me nothing but true love.I still feel threatend however due to her past.Orally she satisfies me very well, however she's been known to orally service every other man she's been with and very well.This at times scares me and haunts me constantly.I begin to invision her performing fellatio on other men and it drives me beserk to the point where i hurt her feelings when i really don't want to.I don't complain about the oral sex i recieve but it really hurts to think of all the other times she's serviced other men with the same passion she does with me.Is this woman wrong for me due to her sexual past?..or am I the one with the problem?..does her fascination for oral sex make it more of a probabability that she will cheat on me or orally service another man thru out our marriage, or am i just making a big deal of something that just occured in her past.At times i feel traumatized when i think of this b/c i'm so in love with her.I feel frustrated and desperate for an answer...Please HELP!

I kind of look at it this way...what's done in her past relationships--leave it there. Be grateful that she pleases you and doesn't drag her teeth. I'm sure she doesn't think heavily about how you performed on your past women, but she is happy that you please her well. Don't dwell on something so little. I feel that men just prefer that their women be innocent and unexperienced in some ways, but not all. My husband felt that I should not perform things that he would make his mistress perform. Thankfully he only had one once and they never had sex. All along I thought "What the hell is wrong with him" but after marriage, oh, how things changed. So be happy for the pleasure she's willing to give you, because alot of women feel that that's a no-no.

heartbrokenbecs, mine is a similiar situation so i know the feelings you are having. I have no solutions, i am still searching as you are but i do have some questions to ask you.

how long have you been married?

did you know of her past before you married?

did she tell you of her past or did you find out through other means?

is she honest to you about her past?

does she know how you feel?

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I confronted my wife yesterday about the problem because it was really crushing my heart to pieces.It's true men do tend to want a woman that is pure and innocent but we all know thats very rare...and besides i've had a wild sexual past of my own so it's not like i'm so innocent myself.She broke into tears because she thinks i see her as a whore..i really don't see her as that.I realize the love she has for me but at times i still get haunted by her past.We've been married for a year and i did know of her past before we got married and since i first found out it hasn't stopped bothering to this day.She confessed to me her past and she is very honest with me..I've confronted her about the problem several times, so she is very aware of it. Thanks for your replies ,i would like to hear more opinions on this subject because i'm still a bit confused and afraid.THank You....

my personal opinion is that if she told you of her past before you were married and she has always been honest with you then she has nothing to hide because you have already excepted her and her past. Obviously it is harder to except then you thought and i can see why but you did except it and at this point you should not make her feel bad about it. Don't make her feel bad for having been honest to you..If she had lied to you then that would be a different story, well actually then that would be my story..Then you would have reason to be suspicious..Love her for being honest, she would not have been honest if she had any intentions of being unfaithful..
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