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What is the best way to get a WS off the fence. I've been trying the last two months to reconcile with my wife. (I moved out seven months ago, after a affair by her a year and a half earlier) The problem is she is not sure what she wants or to what role I will play in her life. Right now she says she wants her independence and freedom to do whatever she wants (party and date other people) Instead of spending the next several months in limbo and waiting for her to "figure things out", does anyone have a suggestion on how I can speed the process up? Just courious if there is anything I can do or say that would stop her in her tracks and put life in perspective. Any ideas or suggestions would be much appreciated.
Thank you...
Jim
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Well you can't stop her in her tracks and change her perspective.
You need to make you what she wants.
Plan A. Be all you can be for her and mean it!
WIWH
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No humpty dumpty amo----wayward spouses have torn down the fence, ripped apart the hedge, crossed the other side completely.
Their heart lines, logic lines, conscience lines faith lines, no longer function-- complete power outage. Hormones have completely taken over.
Suggestion, loop all the energies into your own healing with GOD and reading. The hardest thing in all the world to do. Looping we must do...
The feeling is like trying to drive you car everyday in reverse but we have to until GOD, reset our hearts.
It's sheer MADDNESS road they are on--we have to keep our seatbelts on- that the hardest part to stay calm. I keep blowin gaskets here on board--- it's painful. Heart the damage injury done to us is so extensive-raw, gaping- wounds. We don't know that were even injured with all the shock.
Looking back rewind the tapes. I wish I could have said fewest words as possible, did mega work outs-memorized the entire bible and take loads of vitamins.
May GOD hold you tightly to His heart!
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